Well.. I have a female friend of mine who also plays classical piano. I have always liked her, and during the past weeks she has confessed some times that she likes me also, more as a friend. Today I told her that I want to date her and want to be in a relationship. She accepted, yay! :)
Do you have any advice to me, as I have never been in a relationship before?
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Dont think of it as a relationship. You're dating. Not even that really.
You're going on a date. Singular.
Don't try to run before you can walk.
The most common mistakes a guy makes in his first "relationships" are :
Moving too fast
Thinking "she's the one"
Letting fear of the relationship ending, emasculate him.
He stops being the guy that she was attracted to
He tries to make everything all about her.
He subsumes his own wants and needs to try and pamper her.
He never argues with her or stands up for himself.
He stops taking the lead - If she says, where are we eating tonight? He'll go "I don't mind" thinking that he's doing her a favour, by letting her choose. When really, what he's saying is "Dump me. I can't make decisions."
Don't make her your world. You have a social life, with friends - make sure you keep them.
Don't try to become one of her girlfriends.
They may not like to hear it, in this post 60's feminist world, but women want men to be men - they get antsy if the guy is all new-man soft. Even if they won't know why they are getting annoyed, they will get there.
Keep things interesting for her. Don't always respond to every single text in under 10 seconds. Don't be predictable and boring. Learn to be spontaneous. Be fun. Be funny. And above all, be interesting. Challenge her.
There's about 10 years of dating advice I wish someone had given me when I was 18.12