I usually can't find someone similar to me easily. But when I do it, it either turns out to be a really close friendship or just fades away. I think my problem is that when I find somebody who gets me so well I don't want to risk losing them by getting in a relationship. Let's face it relationships are messy and somebody always gets hurt at the end and breaks off contact. But being in a friendship is much more easier, no drama, no jealousy. Is it weird that I'm thinking like this?
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It's not wierd, but at some point you have to realize that, while every relationship is a risk, that without SOME risk, there can be no real reward.
Successful people don't avoid risk, because they'd never have any success unless they took risks. Instead, they learn to MANAGE risk, by learning a lot about what they're dealing with and by being honest with themselves about the situation. That's great advice for relationships as it is with any other investment.
You've been playing it safe, and you can continue to play it safe forever, but that will be a lonely life. Take some risk. Don't get TOO deeply involved at first, because you're bound to make some mistakes with your first few relationships, but learn from them and do better every time, and soon you'll have one that's worth investing more deeply in.3