Ok, after asking out a girl, what's the best way to plan a date, especially if I don't know her preferences, time schedule, etc. I've heard that girls like it when guys do all the planning, such as the restaurant, what to do, and when. Is this true? Or should I ask her what she prefers?
I was thinking about just asking "Would you like to grab a bite to eat sometime?" After that, should I ask her where she would like to go? Or when? Help Please!
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First, have 3 choices available for everything: restaurant, activity, etc. Plan for options.
Then, call her several days in advance and ask for the date. If it's the first date and you don't really know her, ask if she has any particular type of food that she likes, hates, or can't eat for some reason. Use that information to select from your 3 choices. If she asks where you're going to take her, go ahead and tell her, but if she doesn't ask, don't.
I rarely use a movie as an early date unless she really wants to see something in paricular or it's going to be a long date, because you can't talk to each other at a movie, and talking is the most important part of a date.
Instead, I might just go on a drive somewhere, or a walk, or play pool (billiards). It depends on the girl, the weather, and how much time we have. The goal is to get her away from (most) other people so that we can talk. Some girls will want to come back to my place, or hers, and others might not feel comfortable doing that yet. One girl I took to a music store and we spent a couple of hours playing different instruments and had a great time. Another wanted to stop by a bookstore, and we ended up staying there for hours talking.
It isn't necessary, nor even a good idea, to spend a lot of money on a first date. Time and conversation are the goals, and that doesn't require a ton of cash.1