About 95% of the guys I know aren't looking for a relationship and 40% of them will openly admit that. The guys I've been interested in have either cheated in past relationships, hit on my friends, been way too sexual, been in relationships and still have gone for me etc etc. They all just seem really shady. /:
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Well, you are at least aware of the reality of the situation, which makes you smarter than the average bear.
You need to realize that guys are in their sexual peak years between 16-25 or so, and are driven by very powerful instincts and hormones to screw every girl they see. The fact that they can control themselves at all is kind of a miracle.
And generally, the popular/attractive/good-looking/bad-boy/exciting guys have plenty of options when it comes to getting easy sex from girls, so very few are interested in trading that for the responsibilities and limitations of being in a relationship. And if you look at it from their perspective, why would they? It's not like they're anywhere close to being ready to settle down.
So, what is a girl who wants a real relationship to do? The answers are:
- date the less-confident/less exciting guys. They actually WANT relationships and make good boyfriends and appreciate the girls as people, and not just sex objects.
- date older guys. Unfortunately, you're still a minor, so you can't legally date the guys who are more ready for a real relationship (28-35+), so for now, that's out.
- date the guys you find attractive, and give up the sex easily on their terms. I don't recommend this.
- stay single/become a nun. I don't recommend this either.1