Would it be wrong if I didn't text him back??

So me and this guy have been talking for about 2 weeks. He tends to reply late, and usually doesn't have anything interesting to say... Last night he texted me "What you're doing?" I replied, and he didn't even write back to me... So this morning he texted me "Good morning" like he does every morning... I didn't reply because I feel like this isn't going to go anywhere, I like him... but he seems so plain. So, would it be wrong to not reply to him?

Updates:
He invited me to go to his house on Saturday night, around 11 or 12.. I guess he just wants sex... so I'm just going to try get over this. Thanks for all the advice guys, much appreciated. xoxo

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  • I think if he texts you every morning to say Good morning ; he is interested , but maybe he doesn't know what to talk about like he can't keep a conversation, try asking questions that he can answer back easily , like others said maybe he's not the texty type :D but after meeting him you will know if he's the calm and shy type ( poor comm. skills ) or not( just want to talk to anyone in the morning ) ; Good Luck ;-)

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What Guys Said 11

  • Wrong? Not at all. He's taking it very casually and so can you.

    It seems like..

    a) he's not particularly good at text conversations, some guys don't like texting because it can get routine & boring while others just can't find what to say to make it fun & interesting,

    or b) he's not that interested. He does sound like he is though since he sends you a 'good morning' text everyday. I know if I was interested in a girl, I wouldn't ask her what/how she's doing and then not bother replying. The whole point of asking is to start a convo. Life is busy though, he may have things occupying his time as well which would explain why he responds late or not at all.

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    • He texts me through out the day... he'll usually say "Lol" then I don't reply to that... ugh. I'm not sure, he's so confusing

    • 'lol' & 'k' are big time conversation killers, I wouldn't respond back to those either.

      Like I said either not that interested (since he's not putting too much of an effort) or painfully oblivious to how he texts. Ask him to just hang out, do your talking mainly there instead of over text.

  • Its not wrong to not text someone back. It might be rude, but it isn't 'wrong'. Nothing is 'right' or 'wrong'. However, there are always considerations to be had. If you want that consideration to be given towards you,or the lack there of, then act as such.

    From my experiences, I've lost a lot of interest in certain women merely because they don't talk, or don't even try to keep the conversation going. They give me a blank look and stare. I have to say, that is probably one of the biggest peeves I've come across. Sure I'm no lexicon on celebs or sports, but ffs there is always something to talk about,whether it is interesting or not, depends on each person. If someone were to talk to me about cars, and such, I could keep the conversation going but it wouldn't interest me at all,now that isn't a bad thing,I understand people are different, and I wouldn't stop talking to them because of that. If they have other characteristics that are great and over shine the indifferences, then there is nothing to avoid.

    Idk if you realize this, but from the crowd of guys I know.. waking up to text someone 'good morning' is a bit of a chore. If a guy can give you a minute of his morning, that says something.

    Although, some guys may enjoy texting, I don't do text conversations, unless its with someone in another state who I can't call. Other wise, its merely a tool to create an arrangement. I rather talk on the phone or in person.

    As for him not texting back..well.. I fall asleep sometimes.. yeah its my fault that I NEED sleep.I wouldn't be so demanding of him merely because of that. If you want to talk, then meet up and do something interesting. Texting gets pretty boring,but that is my opinion.

    If you don't feel anything is coming out of it, then that's your choice to make. Personally I don't trust my feelings to often. If I THINK or KNOW, it isn't heading anywhere, I'll avoid it.

    You could feel something is going some where with a guy who is a complete loser. No job, no education,nothing that can sustain life. But he makes you 'feel' great, makes you laugh etc. But realistically speaking, he could be using you to get in your pants, or anything along those lines.

    I prefer the bigger picture outside the momentary happiness,which doesn't really mean squat.

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    • i agree some...it is a consideration of his to text every morning but on the other hand he should keep the convo going id he started it...otherwise the initial interest seems pointless and stupid

    • Hence why I don't text people 'whats up'. I usually only talk to them, when I have something to say, or I'm going to do something and I'm inviting them.

  • Text him back and tease him that he is borring you and that he better entertain you or you will just ignore him. He will either try harder or just not try at all like a loser.

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  • i think he's not interested as you think he is because I think, if you like someone then you will like to keep the conversation somewhat long with them,you know.. or other possibility is that he's playing hard to get. either way I suggest you not to text him back,if he likes you then he'll cave in otherwise his loss... hope I helped :)

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  • Might not necessarily be that he's plain, but that you don't have anything in common, or don't have a rapport (can't think of that bloody word).

    No one need take it personally.

    It's unhealthy to force anything. If it doesn't seem right, leave it be.

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    • Also, I can empathise. I find most text conversations are boring. But they probably think I am at fault. So there you go.

  • He plain point blank.. he might just want sex.. move on

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  • No its not wrong, it creates value for you (if he does it then you do it too, but chances are he ran out of phone credit) but he needs to try a bit harder, but don;t take the piss, reply at the same pace. But still you call the shots at this stage cos you've just been talking.

    Nyways, you just sit there and look as pretty as a picture and equality says he has to do/have everything else lol. But still its your choice, you can get rid of him cos I don;t think a girl who looks like you has a problem getting another guy (guys can only see better they can think).

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  • Nope. He sounds like a plain jane, and if he can't come up with halfway original content for a conversation, then I would guess that you're in for a very boring time.

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  • It is hard for some guys to make conversation. Are you giving him detailed responses that he could reply with something related?

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    • I always do, but all he types is "lol" -,-

    • He probably doesn't even care about what you have to say then. Some guys just get the joy off of knowing that a pretty girl would be willing to talk to them.

  • Good question. Can I ask what he could do to make his messages more interesting?

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  • You are going to give him what he wants? wow I wanna be a player too lol

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    • NO. what the hell. I'm better than that

    • Ofcourse your better than that ...I was getting ready to shave my **** to be a player, but you stopped, so I'll stay a good boy ;P haha

What Girls Said 4

  • I think texting is a pain in the ass, lol, sorry. Have you seen this guy in person? Maybe he's shy, maybe he's not the textytype? Wait till you see him in person or maybe message him on Facebook or something? Try to text more stuff, like maybe a question or what has he been up to today, ... stuff he can work with too. Maybe you already do that, we don't know. But give him another chance yea :) Don't write him off immediately.

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    • I met him in person about 4 years ago... he would usually type "Lol" and I'm left with nothing to say

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    • Well, you'll see how he acts when you're at his place. Or maybe you can ask to go for a drink first instead of meeting him at his place.

    • Lol, I'm only 18 haha, but I'll see what I can do

  • I wouldn't blame you if you didn't text back. Some people aren't interesting enough to text or are bad texters. However, it's only been two weeks. Give him a chance by going out on a date with him since the reason for getting someone's number is to make plans and what-not. So see how the date goes and make your final decision then.

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  • I'd say give him one more chance. He might not be a texting type of person? Try calling him on the phone or meeting him in person, if he doesn't have much to say then, then you should let him go.

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  • Yes, you would be being a bitch. How about you just address the issue instead of being passive aggresive?

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