Okay if you look at my profile and questions I've posted before about love etc... You will see I'm sort of just wandering around in a daze, lost, confused, lonely, and clueless.
Right now I'm at an impasse that must be crossed, I would rather do it sooner than later.
I'm at the point now where I think I should just accept that I'm single, give up on trying to find love and just try to live my life happily alone without someone.
Not close up my heart, but to just reserve myself and set my self to the fact that I'm now going to be 27, I've never had a girlfriend nor does it look like I ever will. Rather than torment myself with ideas that anything will change simply because I want it and wish for it and tried to work at it. It simply just isn't happening.
I don't know if it's fate, karma, poor judgment, something is waiting for a later time to spring it upon me, or if it's all just a bad dream that I'll later wake up from. I have no idea what it is.
So do any of you think that this will be for better or for worse? Should I just stop trying to fool myself and try to be happy without it, live my life focused on other things that have nothing to do with women? Or do you think I should try harder and continue on this path I'm currently on as the 40year old loser...
Sorry, right now I've a bad attitude because I'm a little bitter and somewhat upset at the idea. My friend is telling me he loves being single, but the guy has had girlfriends and hell a girl asked him to marry HER! So he has an objective opinion on the whole deal. I don't, so I get confused at that concept...
Anyways I'm rambling on and could sit here explaining all my points and facts...
Please explain yourself with some detail if you would. Thank you in advance.
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I think you should focus on being happy with yourself, single. At the end of the day, you are the only person you can't get away from so self-happiness is essential (easier said then done, I know). However, that doesn't mean stop looking/trying either. It's probably safe to say that life isn't going to magically get you a date, so ignoring women completely will shut you off, even if you don't intend for it.
Explore new activities, develop hobbies, go to places and events alone just for you. You might surprise yourself at how OK it is to do this stuff solo. If you happen to meet some new people while doing this-awesome, even if it's only friends. In your spare time, you can try making a dating profile out there and see what happens. It's all about networking. Even if the girl you meet at a coffee shop isn't really interested in you, her friend might be so developing friendships is a strong key.
I hope this helps you out, and as long as you don't go into anything with the focus of finding a girlfriend, you'll be able to enjoy it if you don't, and possibly be surprised if you do.0