One day, anywhere from a year from now, to like, 20-25 years from now I WILL need a transplant, and it's making me feel very... guilty for wanting to date and have a girlfriend.
I don't want to be judged based on this fact, so I feel like I can't tell someone early on what's wrong with me... but I feel it would be wrong to date someone and not tell them for a month or two about my condition.
So... Would you date someone that would need a liver transplant, and when would be the best time for your date to tell you?
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You shouldn't bring this out in those first few dates. There is no point. Coming out with our heavy life stuff on initial dates is awkward. It will almost always make both of you uncomfortable because first dates should be light hearted and fun.
If you date for a while and there is chemistry, well the right date will come where you will recognize it is time to bring this up. It's kind of the same thing as building a friendship. Except when we are children, typically friendships start by just hanging out and having fun. At some point they turn the corner and one of you starts sharing deeper thoughts or truths about your life. You don't just tell everyone about your fears, your problems. You tell people that you are connecting with.
So, yes, I would say that you date, you see if the girl and you start to connect emotionally and then, before you ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend (and certainly before you become intimate) you tell her you have something important you need her to know. Don't apologize for anything. Just tell her your reality and see how it goes. I would wait a few days for it to sink in fully, but a girl who is really connecting to you will want to be there for you.
I had a boyfriend who had to wear support hose because he had varicose veins and had surgery for them. He certainly did not tell me about that right away. He waited until we were going to be intimate and then he told me. By then, I was emotionally attached and it was no big thing. If he had revealed a life threatening ailment, I still would have stayed. Once you are attached, you don't just split on someone because of this.0