Something I was just thinking about. Do the girls sift through messages they get or do they look through profiles and send messages first sometimes? We're generalizing here, so no need to put "some do and some don't." I think that is pretty obvious. If anyone has any experience with online dating, that would be great.
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No way! I'm all about initiating even on dating sites and actually the guys I got along with best I initiated.
Most girls on dating sites get at least 10 messages a day even in smaller cities and up to or over 100 the first weeks they join until they become a regular. New toy syndrome
But you have to realize that out of the 10-
lets say 5 she thinks are cute-
3 only said hi in the message- what's she suppose to respond to that, he didn't bother to think of anything to say besides hi?
1 she she read the profile and it wasn't a fit
1 she talked to but they never even met up(you'd be surprised how often this happens)
So she's back down to 0
Most girls on dating sites are pretty open and willing to message guys- because after a few weeks all of them realize this cycle.
I don't mean to be harsh but maybe your profile sucks, or maybe you just aren't the type that these girls who have caught your eye wants. I don't know. But most people are on there to date, the stigma is gone. It's no longer just for hook-ups, that's pretty rare actually. Most people will message, wink, flirt, whatever to someone they fancy because why the hell not it's only over the Internet. If you aren't getting messages- don't blame the women, instead figureout why3
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