I'm 21 never had a boyfriend or a proper date... please helppp!:(
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LOL! Only kidding. Look, just be PATIENT, you WILL, I PROMISE! The FIRST thing you need to do is make it known that you are AVAILABLE. I have NO IDEA what you look like and how you "fit" into society's definitions of attractiveness so I can't help you on that end. What I CAN say is, believe it or not, the better looking you are, the harder it often can be. Why? Easy--MANY times when a guy sees an EXTREMELY attractive girl he just ASSUMES she's taken. He ASSUMES he'll be rejected. So, the girl you THINK would have guys just HANGING from her is often the one who is COMPLETELY ALONE AND DATELESS! I am serious as a heart-attack here.
You want to make it known that you are, in fact, available; but you DON'T want to even SEEM as if you're in the least bit "desperate". If only I could practice what I preach, huh? But it's true. If you seem desperate or clingy or needy you will only tell guys the OPPOSITE of what you want and you will have trouble finding a GOOD guy. BAD guys are a dime a dozen and you WILL run into your fair share. They are EVERYWHERE. They are the guys that drop their phone numbers everywhere they go on every chick they see. If a guy you've never seen before comes in to where you work and asks you out and gives his number, TOSS IT! The GOOD guys will RARELY--IF EVER--do something like that. They will start coming in when you're there, the'll start talking to you a little more, etc., THEN ask you out or give your their number. I think you see what I mean.
The NEXT thing is once you make it known or obvious that you're available (for Pete's sake, DON'T wear a ring on your WEDDING FINGER if you're looking for somebody!) and you DON'T make yourself appear DESPERATE for the first thing that comes along, you need to put yourself in situations where you will be likely to MEET somebody--it's best if you go somewhere that YOU enjoy. Go to an activity YOU enjoy. When somebody approaches you at an event or activity that YOU enjoy you can be reasonably certain that it's something HE likes to do as well, so you've already got something to talk about. From there, it's all up to you!
Good luck, you really sound like a sweetheart and you WILL, I PROMISE, find somebody.2