I'm Sarah, 17, high school student. My boyfriend is Andrew, He's 18, and a high school graduate and future police officer. We've been dating since last November (9 months) and till this past month we were madly in love with the usual bumps in the road but we got over them. Andrew took my v card, asked me to marry him, and wanted to be with me forever. He's my best friend. But, his senior year (which just ended) we had a MAJOR bump.. Were 40 miles apart and go to different schools and he took a DIFFERENT girl to prom and kept it from me, I found out. He apologized and we looked it over and he told her he doesn't want a relationship with her because he's with me. Andrew and I hung out yesterday, first time in 3 weeks and he told me today, that "things aren't the same as they were" only because I wasn't paying all my attention to him, (my bro died a year ago yesterday) and that was on my mind. Understandable, right? Anyway, he doesn't feel the same but I love him, LOVE LOVE LOVE.. What should I do though? Oh, did I mention HE WANTS TO JOIN THE MARINES ASAP. What should I do? Thinking of him in war, hurts me, thinking of him dieing and losing him hurts even more. He doesn't care though, he wants to do anything to be a cop..
.. What do I do?!
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Leave this guy, his love for you isn't very real or strong. You're blinded by the whole "I lost my virginity to this guy" thing and you can't see what's really happening. You said it yourself, he wants to do anything to be a cop and clearly that means not being with you since going to the marines doesn't include taking you with him. The small things like him taking a girl to prom and not telling you and him explicitly saying things aren't the same anymore are all warning signs of him leaving you, it's typical guy behavior, he's letting you go without saying it directly. You've got to let go and move on which sounds awful because you love love love him but this is life. You deserve someone better even though you may look at him as the best guy in the world, he's not. 17 year old Sarah, this is your first painful experience regarding love. It's painful, I know, I've been there. But I promise you, when you get through this (and you will) you'll look back and see how much of a stronger, better person it has made you.1