This question is directed at middle/high school girls and I suppose a few college girls too. It's pretty much all in the title, but I don't think I'm wrong when I say there are more high school bullies with a girl around then kids who endure their abuse. I know that girls have impulses that are purely superficial just as guys do, and bullies tend to be "hotter," and when girls turn into women the nerd gets the girl, but what's so hot about a jackass? I mean I guess it makes sense in the animal world because the alpha "bullies" the others to the top of the pecking order, but we're not animals.
What do you think?
I've known some guys who try to act tough and have engaged in bullying, but then when they have a girlfriend she claims he's "really sweet" or "really not really mean, just acts that way," thoughts? Anyone known someone like this?
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You answered your own question. It's the superficial attraction to the illusion of the alpha male. The environments of bullying are usually artificial and completely removed from the jungle, but the innate behaviors, including of base attraction are still there. When women grow up they shift over the attraction to the real world version of the alpha male, rich/prestigious/famous men, etc.2