I've been dating this guy Jake for half a year now, recently we've been fighting a lot because he tends to get mad at me a lot, he has dumped me twice in the past week then begged for me back, last night he dumped me again because I went to a party where a guy hit on me and whenever that happens he assumes I did back when I didn't, and got really ,ad dumped me called me a bitch said he hated me and deleted me from Facebook and wouldn't tell me why for the longest time, then he came to my house at 2 in the morning and begged for me back so we got back together then I found messages between him and this girl we had issues over before because he was flirting with her and told her he liked her, then he was messaging her last night calling her pretty and telling her to come over and how he misses her and how they would make attractive kids. he doesn't know I know about those messages, I really don't know what to I love this guy so much and I really want all this to stop,
So my question is do you think I should stay with him?
& How do I tell him I know about the girl he was flirting with without telling him I saw his messages
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DONT STAY WITH HIM.
He obviously has trust issues and is taking it out on you (unless you have given him a reason to not trust you).
How did you find the messages? Did you snoop through his phone or (im assuming) Facebook?If you did snoop then it seems like you don't trust him either. But aside from not trusting each other, you shouldn't be with him because it seems that when he feels like he may lose you he goes out and finds someone else to replace you.
So if you have realized that you should not be with him, confront him about the messages and honestly tell him how you found the messages. From there you guys may argue but the bottom line is that he was already looking for someone else ASAP and that just shows how little he really cares about you because he was already looking for Ms. Rebound-Girl. I don't know you nor do I know him but I think you can do better because when a guy really cares he will not over react the way he did. The guy seems to be really immature or has mood swings. And dont' get back with him just because he begs you to or because you think you will do him a favor, in the end it may affect you more because you don't know when he may pull this stunt again of deleting you and calling you names and at that point it may be too late for you to leave him because you may claim that you love him and can't live without him and you won't see his true colors.