A guy who you know has a gf? Or is seeing someone?
If yes, did you regret it? Does it not bother you? Etc etc
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I was hanging with a guy for about 4 months who called me his best friend. Even though he openly admitted that he wasn't into me sexually he still would hold my hand, cuddle with me on the couch, spoon me in bed when I spent the night a few times a week every week. However, he & this girl he had been dating became an official couple back in mid-Feb but didn't tell me about it until late Mar. At first, I told him we needed to stop all the affection stuff but unfortunately that didn't last long. I absolutely loved how affectionate we were with each other. I've NEVER had a man be that physically intimate (outside of sex) with me in my life and it was so comfortable and wonderful. We had the closest emotional connection I've ever had with a man.
The girlfriend lived far away and only visited him one weekend a month. But at the beginning of May she gave him her virginity after 9 months of them dating. Then I saw how he hid my things from her and he kept certain pieces of information concerning me from her. I tried to be okay with it, telling myself at least he wasn't being dishonest with me, but by Memorial Day I couldn't do it anymore. That rainy afternoon, we were napping together in each others' arms when his phone vibrated - a call from her, to which he immediately jumped up to answer. I knew if she had ANY idea of what he was doing at that moment when she called then she would've dumped his a$$. So, I got out of that "love triangle" and have been hurting ever since. As far as I know, she is still unaware of all that went on and she'll probably never know. I feel sorry for her because she's almost 20yrs younger and completely naive. This is the first time she's ever been "in love". It's sad that in the end, I had more respect for her than he does. It simply boils down to this: I couldn't live with him hiding & lying to a young, inexperienced girl who trusted him enough to cash in her v-card with him. You just DON'T treat the person you say you're in love with like that.
I realize now that even if he ever did reciprocate my feelings for him at some point he would just end up cheating on me in someway with some other gal. The fact is: once a liar, always a liar. It's heartbreaking.0