Would you date someone that is unemployed?

[EPhantom]

33% of women say they wouldn't date an unemployed man, no exceptions.

46% of men say they would date an unemployed woman.

[Standingpretty]

I would date an unemployed man depending on who he is as a person. In todays world, many people are being laid off so it's understandable that many people would be out of a job for a while. The only time I wouldn't date someone who is unemployed is if they wanted to live off my salary or anothers and not contribute in some way back. My husband was unemployed a few times during our relationship but always tried to contribute and get back on the horse. Both of us have yet to complete our degrees so it's hard to balance work and school and so there's that to factor in as well considering how many people also had to go back to school and it might cut into their work depending on how much classes they take each semester.

[Hidden_P]

I think it depends why they're unemployed.

If they are unemployed by choice, e.g. living off benefits than absolutely no.

If they are unemployed because they cannot find a job, which at the moment is very likely, then I would give him a chance. It's not his fault the job market is brutal.

If they are unemployed because they've just lost their job, been made redundant, along those lines, ABSOLUTELY I would date him! Again it's not his fault and he's already proven he's willing to work, it wasn't his choice to be unemployed. :)

[RiccoCosta]

Perfect answer! If someone lost their job (i. e., laid off, etc.) and is actively looking for work, then there's no reason why you shouldn't date that person. If you rule someone out merely because they are in job transition, you're pretty shallow and not relationship material.

[Hidden_P]

@RiccoCosta exactly. High five :)

[may04]

It would depend. I understand the economy sucks and a lot of people are hurting for jobs, there's also those who go to school full-time, and people who just graduated and are looking for a job. As long as they're actively trying to find work, even if it is not in their desired career field it wouldn't bother me to try dating them. If they start trying to mooch off my money, or are just lazy/picky then yeah it's a no-go

[KERMlT]

I'd say that unemployment isn't really a factor in dating. It has more impact when you are with that person and depend on another source of income to uphold your level of living though.

I dated one unemployed woman for a week. She would sleep while I was at work then immediately want to go out and party every night. I'd be up till 2 or 3 and call it a night. By Thursday I was dead tired and wanted a night off. She got pissed, went out anyway. By Sunday we broke up. Worst thing I did was tell her where my favorite place to hang out was. She started going there regularly and ruined it for me.

[gemglam]

People who are unemployed don't have anything to occupy their time sou have to be their everything. Really hate that.

[honeyltsme]

Among the upper middle class and the "aspiration upper middle class" circles, there are entire swaths of "deliberately underemployed" women (and some men) working part-time in some BS jobs which have no pressure to make any quantifiable difference. It is often clear their shopping and rent spending clearly outstrips whatever money they earn. I run like hell from these women as they depend on a constant influx of money which is a way of life for them not a temporary situation of someone living within their means and losing a job. The latter case is far more understandable for either gender.

[lisac]

I think that's a bit shallow...to judge someone based on their employment at one point of their life. I would date someone who is financially responsible regardless of his employment status. Someone can have a job and make a lot of money, and still dwindle all. So, why would it matter if a person has a job or not. How would that really affect you?

[gemglam]

How can someone be financially responsible if they don't have a job? They may want to be financially responsible but they are not making the money to do that.

[lisac]

Financially responsible means wise use of monetary resources by an individual. Considering your income and determining how much of that income is allocated to expenses. This describes a person's behavior towards his monetary resources. A person having a job can still be spending more than what he earns, therefore not being financially responsible. Hence, employment is not directly correlated to being financially responsible.

[gemglam]

Well in that case he expenditure should be zero since isn't taking in any money hence zero dating for him. He just simply can't afford it. That would make him truly "financially responsible"

[lisac]

Employment shouldn't dictate if a person should date or not. Life will still go on. Dating is about enjoying another person's company not about having a pet. You can still go on cheap dates, for ex., there might be free community events, cup of coffee, etc.. I had a lot stashed away when I was in between jobs. I still enjoyed life, couldn't spend as much but it wouldn't stop me from things like dating.

[gatennis09]

Yes, I would date a guy that is unemployed and I have before. Especially if the guy is in school and still young. Now.. if you are like 25 and don't have a job that could be a problem. I mean.. where would you live? And if the guy doesn't have money to go out that really limits the fun stuff to do out there. And the other person in the relationship would have to pay for all the gas. That's no fun.

[PntBlnk]

It's an instinct. The male's role is to provide and protect. How can a man do that now a days without money?

Plus, if you're unemployed, the last thing you should be thinking about is dating and if girls will like you or not... find yourself a job instead! (when I say 'you' I don't mean it personally)

[gemglam]

No I would not. Since a man values his worth partially on what he whether or not he is where he wants to be and how much he wants to make. A man who is not where he wants to be or close to it will not make plans for me in his life. My observation from having four brothers and hanging around their friends

[davepetef]

I think it's more about the reason why they are unemployed. The fact of being unemployed may create a certain image of laziness, or the inability to provide for themselves. So if a guy wouldn't date a woman, it's probably one of those reasons, same goes for women and their outlook on unemployed men. Hope this made sense.

[killbenlanier]

I don't have a steady job, and if I wanted to date someone, it would be a dumb decision. Women don't care how hard you try. If you don't have your sh*t together, you have nothing for them. You have to focus on your wants and needs during a time like this, not someone else's.

[gemglam]

I agree

[aMuse]

I guess so. As long as they are bettering themselves, it wouldn't bother me... Most of the girls I've met lately have been college girls, many in graduate school. I don't care where they get their money from, so long as they aren't looking to dig on me...

[Anonymous]

Well right now I'm unemployed. I have no idea what I want to do and I kind of get social anxiety a lot. Stupid I know but it started after a health issue I had. I had diabetes and would faint all the time, not cool lol. I would be upset if a guy didn't want to date me because I'm not working. I have a master's degree, I have done SOMETHING with my life, I'm just lost in what direction to go in at this point.

[Anonymous]

i would never date an unemployed man! especially if I am working and have a really good job. if he asks me out on a first date then for sure I am not paying for the date. to me an unemployed man is not a good image. sorry if I am being so harsh but that's my opinion :)

[gemglam]

Exactly

[ZenQueen]

of course.. he would have more time for me! but I'm not giving him any f***ing money... he's own his own to take care of bills/living/food... I've always wanted to be a traveling nomad... it would be nice to have some male company on my travels...

[ambertaylor]

I would date an unemployed guy as long as he had the motivation to get a job and succeed, not too be a long term laze about. I like a man with drive and ambition

[DodgersGM]

If they're working toward something, then yeah, I would.

People run into rough patches all the time in life... it's how they respond that matters most.

[Picopa]

NEVER! It's hard enough taking care of yourself. How are you going to support someone else i.e. paying for dates, driving everywhere, giving them loans, etc?

[candlewax]

As long as I don't have to end up supporting him, I really don't care.

In other words, if he's unemployed because he's a loser- no. If he's unemployed because life sucks atm, meh. No big deal.

[prettymuscle]

I would date them but if they don't change and get a job . then I would have to let them go.. am a man of pride

[CatholicVirginia]

Strongly depends. How long has he been unemployed? What was his job? What is his work ethic? How hard is he looking for another job?

[anonymousbastard]

What difference does it make what kind of job he had? A jobs a job.

[CatholicVirginia]

So you can block me but then you can stalk my answers?

What his job was has significance - not SOLE significance. That being said, I'm not justifying myself to a craven such as you.

[gemglam]

His job is important if that's his goal otherwise it brews unhappiness for the woman because the man isn't happy and will try to compensate in other ways

[Anonymous]

Sleep with? Yes.

Date? Not unless I already know the person and I know that this is a temporary thing (on unemployment going back to school and the like)

I'm pretty sure this is true for most people in my age group, both male and female.

[djbreal87]

As long as they were actively trying to find work, I would. But if you have been jobless for two years living with your mother, then no.

[Prettygurl12]

I'm dating one right now...of course, that might have something to do with my age bracket.

[NayaAbouzaid]

Depends on if he's planning to get employed soon

But a guy with no hopes , dreams and goals is a guy who won't be having me in his future anytime soon .

[NayaAbouzaid]

I mean if he's unemployed because he can't find a job then I will give him a break

But if he's just lazy and isn't really passionate about anything ... then I just cant

[gemglam]

I agree