This girl and I who are dating got physical about a week ago. It was kind of spur of the moment, but before she opened my pants we had to stop. I invited her to sleepover last night but she said she shouldn't because she knows what I would be expecting. I told her we didn't have to have sex and she was fine with going then. We went on a date and then we came back to my house and cuddled and watched a movie. While we were watching the movie it seemed like she didn't want to have herself open to me, but she still was fine with me touching her. Then when it was time to sleep she faced away from me in my bed and was tight like she didn't want me to try anything at all. We just layed there in silence and then I said, "I understand you don't want to do anything, but I was wondering if that was because you wanted to take things slow?". She said "I don't feel like its right to have sex with someone you're not in a serious relationship with." We both decided we can't be in a serious relationship because she's going off to college at the end of the summer, but we're still "dating". She acknowledges that we go on dates and her good friends know that we are dating. After talking with her she seemed more comfortable and was facing me and she wasn't so closed off. Is she doing this because she isn't interested? It seems like she likes me but it seems like she holds herself back from getting really sexual.
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Ohhhhh I see. I still stand with the thought that probably she's scared and she is mentally preparing herself for what she thinks will become a "break up" believe me some girls do that, so, they refrain from sexual activity and start forcing themselves to fall out of love for fear of a break up. Just try and be supportive of her decision and show her you want to be exclusive with her. EVen after she goes to college never stop proving that you are exclusive with her because what I am getting at is that that is her fear either you or her leaving. So after she goes off to college don't forget about the little things like showing her she is still exclusive to you.1
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