After all the fights we had because he found out I met some guys friends from internet without telling him when I was traveling in their cities,I met them for getting some info and help,but he said I lied to him and he lost his trust in me..he easily got upset and fought with me in the last two months after he found it out,and we've fought often because of this.
He said he doesn't love me as much as before and doesn't want to waste my time as he isn't sure of us and our future,so he think that it is better we stop now,we both agreed but we could not split up finally,we tried a few times..and because I can't take it when he is sometimes hot,sometimes cold to me,so I tried to break up with him a few times but couldn't make it because he wouldn't let me go,we both can't let go because we still love each other,I am sure of my feelings and what I want,but the problem is him,he doesn't know anymore if he still wants to spend his life with me and is cold and distant sometimes,I can't bear it really when I think about how much he was in love and nice to me before.
All my friends told me that I should just let him go,I know they are right,but I just can't and hoping that he would tell me that he loves me as much still and want to be with me...but his unsure is killing me..
What should I do? why does he want to break up when he still has feelings for me?and why he doesn't let go as he says he should and we both should?
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If you really love him as you said you did then you will try hard to maintain your relationship with him. But if you feel you love him less then its probably because of the fights you guys are having and your starting to have second thoughts. You need to be sure of your feelings. If you love him, try. Don't let the love of your life go. As for him breaking-up with you. Well he found out that you've been meeting some guys. That hurts when you love someone so much and believe they love you the same way back. What if you were the one who found out he has been meeting other girls. I don't think you would like that. No one would like that. And he probably does have feelings for you. If you guys have been together for a while then he does because of all that time spent together. All of the memories that you guys shared will live with you. Its part of your life as he was to you and vice versa. And In your description you say "we both can't let go because we still love each other...". If he doesn't let go its because he still has feelings for you but he's hurt. He doesn't want to let go the woman he's been with. All the memories he had with you, he probably can't forget. Your friends are telling you to let go, but its your decision. Either you let go of him and find someone else, or stay him him. If you love him then try, don't give up to easy. But if your having second thoughts...then try to find out what your really feeling and then make your decision. Try for now, and if you see that all your trying is for nothing and he's not putting any effort, then maybe you should be that one that lets go and make it clear that your sure of your decision.1