Me and my boyfriend have been living together for about 2 months, and just recently we got into a HUGE FIGHT, where he said he's been thinking about me moving out for a month because he doesn't get enough space.
I agree that we do everything together. We don't have any time apart except for when we are at work.
He told me I am smothering him and he needs more space. He said "What's wrong if you just stay at your dads 2 nights a week, give me a chance to miss you"
We don't have very good sex life, maybe twice every two weeks and I asked him why, and he said "because when I'm angry or unhappy, I don't want to have sex. And if I don't get it one night, I know you'll be there the next day to give it to me anyways..."
He said we need more excitement. He told me he doesn't want me to leave, he just wants enough space and time to miss me.
Is this a good thing? Or is this a bad thing? Is he just trying to push me away?
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I don't think that he's trying to push you away per-say. Everyone needs their own space. Now I don't think it should be as dramatic as you moving out or something. I will say that you two need to find your own hobbies that you do by yourself or with friends. When you first move in together you're not used to seeing that person all the time and not being able to do the stupid stuff you used to do when you didn't see them. Moving in together is an adjustment and can be difficult.
My wife and I have been together for almost 8 years and married for almost 5 of them. We can drive each other crazy so we both have to find things we do without each other. Every morning she takes our son to the local gym drops him off at the daycare and works out. Then she takes him swimming. Sometimes she even has girls night out with her friends or she will go play volleyball with her girlfriends some nights. I myself play golf with some buddies and a have a MANcation once a year when me and my close friends go away for the weekend to go fishing. We also have guys nights out when we might just go to a local bar.
Finding things to do without each other when you live together is very important. It gives you some time away from each other.
Now as far as the sex life, I don't know about that one. I think he's getting comfortable with the fact that he knows you're there so he can get it whenever he wants. Don't let that be the case. Still make him work for it like you did when you first started dating, lol.0
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