I don't know exactly what to say to him...Or how I could go about making him less paranoid.
Situation-I've suffered from self esteem issues all my life. When I was younger I was a bit bigger in then I lost some weight and put a tiny bit back on. I have a little pudgy now. Anyway my boyfriend has a problem with looking at other females. Its not just glancing at them or looking them up and down its completely ignoring me, asking me a question in then asking me to repeat myself, walking away from me, staring for a few minutes, looking back 20 different times...etc. I got fed up especially when I would catch him checking out the people closest to me. My sister for me is a big no no. My sister is older them me,smaller then me in both height and body mass, she has larger breasts...I've always been compared to her, ever since I was little and gained a bunch of weight I have always been compared to her and I couldn't take it. I told him if he doesn't knock it off I would tell him I need some space...It would just crush me when I would catch him starring at my sister and when he would completely ignore me and walk away. I'm just so tired of it. I've been with him for a little over two years and we've talked before but it didn't change a whole lot. I just felt like I couldn't take it anymore and I would need some space if it happens again. It makes me feel so horrible when he stares after and ignores me because I feel like I'm not what he really wants just what he settled for...and I know he likes my personality most of the time.
Now he is paranoid about doing anything wrong because he'll think I'll want a break and its not like that. He feels better about the whole situation since I said that to him, something about a break, because its been a week...But what do I say to make him not so paranoid? I know its a bit confusing and I don't want all guys do this answers because I know guys will glance but not go out of there way to look nor completely ignore the one there with to look at someone else.
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Can I be blunt with you? Honestly I don't think you're ready for a stable relationship. He's being distracted by natural stuff, you could either talk to him about it, or you can break it off completely; if you can't handle it like a real woman.
Why would you want to take a break with someone you love? You're delusional, torn between your jealousy and cognitive dissonance. The way you approach a relationship isn't healthy. Nothing in life is 100% perfect you have to understand that it's a trade, that it's a give and take, that you can't just give, and you can't just take, you're supposed to be honest with each other, and the sooner you accept that the better it is for you.0
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