I normally like to avoid "the talk" and let things happen organically, and let it fall into place.
However, I am seeing someone new. He is a Coast Guard and recently became stationed here a couple months ago. We have been talking and seeing each other for a little less than a month, which is normally way too soon to ask about where things are going.
We talk every day and have slept together once. However, it is difficult since he can't have girls on base and I live with my parents for now. He wants me to spend his birthday with him, he's told me before he hates having to get a hotel room because he doesn't want to "make me feel like a booty call" because "i am more to him than that." He has also said that he would love to just have "2 days where neither of us have to work the next day so we can sleep in together and go to the movies, etc."
It obviously isn't bad, these are all good signs, however, this is where it gets complicated.
I am moving to southern california (I live in northern california) this fall where I plan to finish school and live there permanently, therefore possibly cutting short our relationship. Also, since he is in the military/coast guard, he can't just pick up and leave.
I feel like I should hold back and wait for it to happen on its own, but I'm just not sure. I know I really like him, and I don't really want to see anyone else right now. I also don't want to freak him out and seem too pushy.
Help me out!
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You need to have the talk.
It doesn't matter how much you hate it; there's no avoiding it. Take it from someone who is the child of TWO parents who were in the military and I've been around women with this same situation my entire life. Don't wait for it to happen on it's own, just talk to him. Why not just be open and honest vs not knowing where each other stands? If he's really a great guy, than he's worth "the talk". You may really regret letting him go in the future...1