We had a huge fight today. It all started when I told my husband that I noticed our daughter's eyesight has gotten worse and we need to see ophthalmologist. He went to talk to her and check the situation himself. And guess what I heard. He was telling my daughter " only pathetic losers wear eyeglasses. Do you want be one of them? You can't miss a letter when eye doctor checks your eyesight. If you miss, you will be wearing eyeglasses." I almost cried when I heard this. I knew he was narrow minded, but I didn't know he was this narrow minded to teach his daughter to discriminate. And what if she needs prescriptive glasses? she will look down at herself and that will kill her confidence.
Apparently he forgot his wife is one of that pathetic losers who literally cannot see anything without her contact lenses. Now I am
pretty sure that he will leave me if I become blind even though I sustained him throughout our marriage.
I am leaving him. I had enough.
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That is not something a loving father says to his child. It is SO easy to bruise a young girls confidence. Your vision is not something you can control. It's not like the eye exam is a test you can study for.. if you have poor eyesight, and fail the eye exam, that's just life... you deal with it. Having less than perfect eyesight and wearing glasses does NOT make you a pathetic loser... saying something so heartless and threatening to an impressionable child makes you a pathetic loser...
A few years ago my grandmother found out she had macular degeneration. It was a long process, but now she is completely blind. My grandfather takes care of her and loves her just as much as he did 55 years ago when they were married. When you marry someone, you vow to love them unconditionally, through sickness and health and all that jazz.. if he'd leave you for something so superficial (in addition to the horrendous thing he said to your daughter), then he is not the ideal husband. All couples have problems an issues to work through, but I too would draw the line if my child's mental well-being was at risk.0