I realize it to be horribly cliche to fall for someone online. To me, it had always seemed immature, and lazy, and it had always seemed to be the insecure whom have been prone to such a thing...
Now, I can't say whether I am insecure or immature, or lazy, because I believe that sentiment to be subjective to opinions, however, in the midst of being so arrogant and ignorant on the subject of online dating, I have never considered the situation- And now I am all but lost.
I had come across someone online, evidently, and we began to speak with one another. Light chatting, etcetera. But after a while, it came to the point where we had both realized that- If this were to be a real life scenario- we were interested in each other as more than just online-chatting buddies.
We have spoken very much, and explored all of the possibilities and consequences that come along with meeting. We have explored the great possibility that we will not at all be interested in one another in the physical means of meeting, and we have expressed the possibilities of things going wrong. But there is always that one possibility that being together is |right|. Ultimately, that is what is swaying us toward deciding whether or not to meet.
I have analyzed said situation over and over and over again, in order to rule out and consider every possible pro and every possible con. Part of me says I am taking a BIG chance, and part of me says that this is something I need to pursue for my own peace of mind.
The ball is now in my court, for he has left the decision up to me. It is now up to me to decide whether we will meet or not. It's a big chance that I know I am willing to take, but I would really appreciate some outside help here, from you guys.
Is this a good idea?
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It could be the best or the worst idea you'll ever have..At this point, you don't know and there is no way to tell really.
I believe in online love - every day, since I'm married to one :p (and like you, completely unexpectedly). Reasons why I believe in it for everyone would bring me too far here..
The key is really how you handle it from here: meeting, sure but the first time(s) I wouldn't do it alone (or at least have someone around), and in a public place ("no physical reality string attached"). One of you could get disappointed - don't get your fantasized hopes up, the reality always hits the first moments..(good or bad)
Whether you find a guy in a bar or a library or online - it's still a guy you need to see whether you like him that way. The 'risks' are pretty much the same. The big difference with online relations is that you unconsciously already made a virtual picture of him which could influence/bias you.
I would meet him really - if you click, it's extremely powerful. You would not want to miss that possibility :)
Good luck with it!