I went on a first date with this girl and to me she is amazing...intelligent, gorgeous, outdoorsy...essentially has a lot of qualities that I think are amazing but I can tell she has commitment issues. On our date she mentioned that her parents are divorced, she's had a strained relationship with her dad, goes through jobs like a kid going through Christmas presents, and also even said that when she starts to feel tied down she feels like she needs something new. Afterwords I still thought the good out weighed the bad. But then I called her a few days later for a second date (which she confirmed that she would like to go on) she starts talking about how she has decided to move to another state in 4 months. Now I know its not smart to think any further than the here and now, when dating but I struggle with this knowledge. How can I expect to enjoy being with her if there is going to be a time limit on see her? Is it even worth going on another date with her? at the moment the good and bad have equalized out and I'm left wondering what do I do?
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I think you already know the answer, but deep down you're hoping you can tame this, what I like to call, Tigress. Your assessment of her is so spot on! I certainly think all of your instincts are telling you that this one might be a beartbreaker.
My mother always says, when somebody tells you something, believe them the first time. In some small way, she's already told you that she'll get back to hunting again the minute she feels tied down. She can't help it, it's in her relationship DNA and there's really nothing you can do about it. Want to know if a girl is good relationship material? Look at her relationship with her father. That will tell you everything you need to know.
So...I think you know pursuing this one is bad news. Still, if you decide to make a go for it, don't delude yourself into thinking she might suddenly get her act together. You'd be setting yourself up for a huge dissapointment. As much as it will cause you pain, I Say let his one run free. She won't be happy locked up in a cage.
I wish you luck in love.0