We went out a year ago a few times, but he was separated from his wife. I decided it was best to stop seeing him.A year later (Now) he is divorced (just a month) and he looked me up again. We went about four times. I started to really like him. He tried to have sex with me twice, but I did not. That last time he stopped and said that he can tell I want a relationship and he isn't ready for one. He said he really likes me and hopes I am still available when he is ready. He wants to be 100% ready and be there 100% for me.
Then he said he still wanted to do things with me. Before that talk he would text me every day and tell me he really liked me. Since then he texts me and emails me almost every day. We hung out once more a week ago. We had fun. He gets his kids every other weekend and doesn't usually talk to me, but he emailed me today. His daughter is with his sister and his son is a teenager. He is getting ready to go look at houses with his realtor (he is buying a house right now).
He always texts/emails but never asks me to do anything and it drives me insane because I have feelings for him. WHY does he do this? This time I brought up doing something and he said he wanted to but his cousin is going to be in town starting Monday (for 10ays)... that is all the free time he has until he gets his kids again. So... what am I supposed to wait three weeks longer or four to do something while he texs and emails the whole time.
I lost it and emailed him that this is hurting me and asked him why he keeps talking to me like this and that it shouldn't matter if his cousin is in town. If he liked me he would WANT me to spend time with him (and his cousin) and have fun together. He emailed me telling me he was driving now and couldn't talk. I am so upset and I am thinking I should just stop talking to him altogether. What do you guys think?
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You can look at this in a couple of ways. First, this man has been married for awhile, recently divorced & he now wants to get out there "be free" with some women. "Women," not woman. You obviously have feelings for him & he knows this. It seems clear that he has them for you too, and he is a good man because he is not about to lead you on and date you knowing that you want more from him than he can give you. He does not want to hurt you. Simple as that, missy. He is trying to keep from hurting you.
At the same time, he doesn't want to lose contact with you. So...what can you do at this time? Give yourself some space, and him. The more you harp on this & let it drove you crazy, the more apt you are to do something that will ruin the friendship you now have with him. Thus, ruining anything you two may be able to have in the future when he is done with his newly found freedom. So, go on about your life. Do not sit & wait for him either, who knows! You might even meet the man of your dreams during this time...but you can't be sitting around being all boohooing about him or you will miss him.0