I'm nearly 21, still at home and I'll be going away to school in January. Due to my lifestyle, it's easier for me to meet people online. I realize that it doesn't look good to my family that I'm meeting people this way, but I believe most people online are just regular people, and many relationships these days start online. I see the internet as a tool to meet nice people more easily. Bad people exist even in real life, so I think the internet is just as risky as meeting real life people to an extent.
While I understand their concern, how can I get my family to relax and realize that I'm being careful and smart and that they don't need to worry as much as they are about me communicating with people I meet online (especially since most of my friends are states or countries away) ?
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I completely agree with everything you have said! I did online dating on and off for a few years, its a great tool to meet people who you wouldn't normally meet in your everyday life.
What you need to do is once you find someone who is respectable, have them meet your family. Don't tell them right away that you met online. Let them see how great and normal the guy is.
I had the same problem with some of my friends. They would roll their eyes at me when I would tell them I was using online dating and that I had a hard time meeting guys in my everyday life. It was hard, I lived in a small town and none of the guys there were into me. So what I did was take my dating life into my hands and start doing something about it.
I met some great and not so great people online. But that comes with dating whether you meet online or in everyday life.
I still have friends who think it's weird. But not everyone meets their husband in high school or college, or through friends. Some people need that extra help and it's perfectly normal! I have a friend who met her boyfriend online, and it's nice to have someone I can talk to about it that totally gets it!
Online dating isn't for everyone, but obviously it's working for you or you wouldn't be doing it. I met my boyfriend of over a year and a half online, and it's been the best relationship I have ever had, my boyfriend is amazing! And he is not a creep or a pervert. He's just a regular guy who thought he would give online dating a try, and I was a normal girl who was having trouble meeting people. We met and have been happy ever since! So it does work.
I think your family and friend's will just have to get over their reservation. It's their issue not yours, so don't try to own it or change their opinion. Let them see how happy you are with the relationship you get online. They will forget about all that once they meet the guy and find out he is great!0