My girlfriend seems to only appreciate me when I'm not there. we are in a long distance relationship. shell say things like I miss you, do you know how lucky I am to have you? I'm so proud of you? then when I'm with her she's very demanding and tries to control everything we do. the other night she says how she feel she takes and takes from me and doesn't know how to give to me and then got mad at me for that...and when it comes to sex, she will bring it up and say she wants to kiss me so much when were in my car, but when we get there she just hugs me and says we have to go. shell bring up sex and talk about it but when were alone shy away from it...i just feel like I'm in a relationship where what she's saying she wants and thinks and what does and how she acts don't match...i recently drove an hour to see her for a few hours then when we had an opportunity to b alone she insisted on helping her camp group, who she was with, but they told her twice to go and it was her day off, she insisted on helping 3 times to them so they relented. and instead of spending the limited time she had with me she dragged me alone to help with her camp for 45 mins...then I had to drive her to her bus 20 min away, and drive an hour home...how do I even approach this? I'm kinda tired of giving her everything she asks for.
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How long have you been seeing her? Sometimes if I am w/a guy I really want to have sex with but want to wait to be sure he likes me as a person (etc.) it is hard. I find myself making sexual remarks (sometimes a little shocking or out of the blue remarks). It is my release and then I feel better (sounds weird I know). I certainely wouldn't say sexual things to a guy if I wasn't wanting it from him, but it is quite possible that she is using you (a very slight possibility).
You did say you drove an hour to see her, but just ended up helping her w/her work and DRIVING her to her bus stop then going home. Sometimes women use sex as a form of manipulation (thinking it will keep you coming back if they tease you but don't actually do it).
Try to give it to her the minute she makes a comment -- for instance, if you are driving and she makes a comment, say (with complete confidence) something sexual back that you woudl like to do to her. See how she responds, she might not be expecting it, but you could pull over and starat kissing her and touching her... (drive home immediatly if you are really in public if not then do it right there)... hahahahaha... if she rejects you in that moment, then you need to talk to her about it. Good luck.0