Well, three possibilities, and let's hope its 3, but I'll run through them anyway:
1) maybe he's just not that caring. Which would mean ... he's not a keeper.
2) maybe you really do complain a ton, in which case, you need to learn to self-sooth more.
3) guys don't tend to share problems and comfort each other. They share problems only when stuck. Other guys communicate their confidence in the guy by suggesting some advice to 'fix the problem'. Its a standard male-female communication issue that women want to talk 'about' a problem, but guys want to 'fix' it. But fixing is what guys do when they care (and what makes guys feel better when they have the problem). So he may feel like he's tried to 'fix' your problem. You just want him to acknowledge your feelings. So try telling him directly you don't need or expect him to 'solve' your issue. He may feel powerless and upset about being unable to fix things for you. He may also have no idea that simply being there makes you feel better. You could try explaining to him how much he helps you by listening and comforting. He probably feels he's failing you, but if he knows he's doing a lot, he might be better about it. Worth a shot.
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To me...this guy imo isn't worth keeping.
It's VERY easy to be in a relationship when things are going well and there are no problems or complications.
But when things get TOUGH!...now THAT is when you see who's in it to be the partner for you...and who's in it just for the affection and sex.
Anybody who is in the latter...isn't wife material, thus why date her?
Ur boyfriend seems to be the latter...hae you asked him why he is so dismissive about you expressing your emotions?
A boyfriend should be there to comfort you when you're down, and expect the same from you when he's down. Like Prof Don said, it's during the bad times that you see who is there for you and who isn't. This is a bad time for you, and your boyfriend isn't there for you. No matter how many times you go to your boyfriend, he should always be there to comfort you and just listen, perhaps try to help out. You should think about your relationship with him. Is he truly what you want?
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