Long story short, I met a guy, we really liked each other, got together, then broke it off two days after because we rushed into it and both agreed to spend time as friends. We talk every day, and our conversations are a mix of getting to know each other, regular talk, and flirting.
Ever since two nights ago when we stayed up till 3 in the morning texting each other, because of our conversation I wondered if he had gotten back together.
I finally took the chance and asked him if we were last night, and he said we were, but it's not open at the moment. He said having a girlfriend right now would be hard because he wants to get his life together and everything first. But he said in his heart, I am his girlfriend and I told him I felt the same.
So we're together, but we're not really officially out there open in a relationship. Is that normal?
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Seems like these days it is, but it's all a cop-out.
I could easily say the same thing about getting my life together before wanting a commitment, but that won't stop me from engaging in a relationship if I see one I really am interested in.
If he can't be in a relationship until he gets his life together, he also shouldn't be "together" with someone either. Both things are the same, will use an equal amount of his time and attention. The difference is that one requires him to make a commitment to being with just you and nobody else, and the other allows him the freedom to continue exploring other people.
Like I said its a cop out, a lame excuse at best.0