Sorry for the vague title, but I couldn't think of how to word it any better. Also, I apologize ahead of time for making this long, but there are a lot of details.
Anyways, I had back surgery a few years ago, and some mistakes made during the operation left me with spinal cord damage. I'm able to walk, but not run, and I walk with a limp that varies from hardly to very noticeable. The limp isn't due to pain, but due to muscle in my right leg being spastic, so when I step my leg stays flexed for a bit when I try to bend it. Unfortunately, when I get nervous (like when talking to cute girls) it gets worse, to the point where my limp is obvious.
The other major problem is sweating. I no longer regulate my body temp well and don't really sweat from the chest down, so I get hot easily. This causes me to sweat profusely from my shoulders up. Again, this problem is exaggerated when I get nervous (alcohol helps calm me, but can't be drinking every time I want to talk to a girl).
So I will approach a girl, and if it is warm at all in the room, I might sweat a bit. Then I feel self conscious and nervous about the sweating and the limp, and both get worse.
These have really made it difficult for me to approach women, and so I am curious about what the women on this site think. If I approached you, you noticed my limp, and may (or may not) notice me sweating a bit from my forehead, would you instantly be turned off by it? Or am I blowing this out of proportion and still have a shot at a convo and maybe a phone number if it goes well?
Oh, and please be honest about how you'd react if you didn't know the details I provided above.
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I'm gonna be honest, It could be a distraction for the girl or make the situation a little uncomfortable at first. You just need to pull her attention away from that by being confident.
I'm gonna tell you one of my shallow secrets that I think a lot of other girls have too. Please don't judge it's just a preference of mine. I am a tall girl, around 5'6 and when I go out I like to wear pumps or something cute with a little heel. I usually don't date guys who are shorter than me. Well one night I went out with some of my friends to a club. It seemed like all the guys at the club that night were really short. I had just finished shutting down 2 guys that were way to short for me, when this other short guy came up to me. I was just gonna ignore him but he came up to me with confidence, started a conversation, paid me a sweet complement and then I noticed that he was a really nice guy. We had a lot of stuff in common and I found him attractive. I danced with him all night, I gave him my number and we started dating. We dated for close to four months then decided to just be friends.
It's all in how you present your self, be confident, sweet, funny and you can have any girl.
other tips: Bring a bandanna with you and wipe your face before you walk up to the girl so you can feel more confident. Also don't worry so much, If it's hot then she's probably sweating too. Every single girl you wanna talk to is gonna have insecurities of her own so you just have to keep that in mind. I'm sure you'll find a girl that's right for you.
Good luck! :)1