I just started dating this AMAZING guy. We have had conflict, but it never amounted to anything because I am so open with expressing myself and he is quick to listen. So recently, one of my friends was talking and he said, "If there's no fighting, then it's not a real relationship." After I heard that, I don't know what to think about us anymore. Is it true? Do we really not have a real relationship?
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You're relationship sounds fine to me in my humble opinion.
There are many couples out there, married and dating that don't have anywhere near the same number of fights as the average couple. Some times people just get along well, can read each other and in general have excellent communication between each other. Unfortunately this is another example of a stupid social stereotype saying that couples **HAVE** to (or are expected too) fight in order for the relationship to be legitimate (in other peoples eyes). (Begin sarcasm) Because you know, your relationship has to live up to everyone else expectations and in no way live up to yours. Allowing your relationship to live up to your expectations would be just wrong! (End sarcasm, please don't take offense).
Your friends response signals to me (in my opinion) he has not had the kind of good fortune you are currently having and is in fact jealous. It's a very common human reaction to get angry or annoyed at another person happiness or good fortune. As a result to make ourselves feel better we criticize or try to ruin that person(s) good fortune or happiness by causing sadness or misfortune. The word for this kind of behavior is often referred to as Schadenfreude (Yes the German's found a word for that :P). I have also observed as a species we tend to dislike it when one of our own gets any sort of advantage in anything and in turn will ridicule a person for it or seek to remove that advantage. In this case your kind of relationship could be considered an advantage over those who do not have this kind of a relationship (or seen as such).I believe you are being ridiculed for your advantage of having an excellent and very stable relationship with your partner.
In a more extreme (emphases on extreme) case a person might seek to destroy that relationship. Think of a home wrecker, that would be an example of an extreme case of ruining a relationship due to (in some cases, not all) jealousy. I'm not saying that's happening to you I was just providing an example. Again there isn't anything wrong here, enjoy your relationship and see how things go. Who knows, you may end up with this kind of a relationship for the rest of your days, time will tell. :)
Take this with a grain of salt, good luck I hope this helps a little. :)1