I feel guilty and bad if I don't pay 100% attention to whomever girl I may like. It's both that I need her attention (needy) but also that I feel mean if kind of do my own business. I'm here for the guilt part. Don't just tell me STOP feeling guilty. It's not use. Just some real things which work and can help making a genuine inner shift. If you have suggestion for te needy bit too, all the better. Cheers
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Replace your automatic thoughts with something more productive. When you hear your inner voice say, "I'm a bad person because ..." replace it with a thought that "I am a good person and it's normal to want to do my own thing."
Same goes with the neediness. When you hear your inner voice saying, "She MUST like me or (horrible outcome)" replace it with "It'd be cool if she liked me, but if not I will find someone who is a better fit."
It sounds cheesy, but I am actually going through counseling for this type of negative thougth pattern stuff (not from relationships, but childhood experiences crap) and it actually does work. I find myself not wigging out over normal things and not beating myself up for things that are out of my control.0