So this friend of mine is dating this guy. Its a long distance relationship and not going well, they fight and such but never break up. She met this guy locally and he asked her out. I told her it was my opinion that her going out with another guy, and not telling either guy about the other was wrong.
At first I was really vocal about my objection as plenty of women have done that to me and it always ends up hurting me. But then I realized that I was being a little harsh because of my past experiences, so I mellowed out and told her that was just my opinion and she could do what she wants, but I still feel like its wrong.
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That's a hard one- I've been in the same situation before, only with a male friend. I would agree that seeing someone else without telling the person you're dating is wrong- I always figure being up front is the best policy. I mean, some people are fine with a casual relationship where both people are free to date other people, some people aren't. I don't care what the parameters of a relationship ARE as long as they're clear and both people are willing to play by them honestly. I'm guessing in this siutation that's not the case.
What I did with my friend was tell him I thought he was making a bad choice, that while I loved him and knew he was a good person, I couldn't respect what he was doing. I left it at that because, well, it's his life and he has to live with the consequences. Bascially, if people, even your friends and/or family are set on a path there's no real way to stop them even if you wish you could. You can tell them what you think, but after that it's up to them. The hard part is accepting it and sticking by them even when you're not seeing their best side, but that's what loving someone means...I think you've done all you can do, best to just leave it alone for now or you'll hurt the friendship.1