Suppose your girlfriend sent you these messages:
"I hate your undeliverable promises! I hate you always drunk to meet me or tired or sick! I hate you put the beer everywhere!
I can't happy in your dirty apartment! You always let me clean,I go to your apartment not help you clean or cook for you."
You know she has kind of a point about the dirtiness level, and you clean the apartment when she comes over but still get the crap for it. Do you accept this behavior or dump the girl?
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when you're in a relationship with someone, and you love each other, you make each other a better person and help each other. its like friendship too, when you're boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife for example, you look out for each other and help each other become better people, just as a best friend would. I think she is just giving you a slap of reality to get yourself together, yea its harsh and it hurts to hear, but she's doing it because she cares about you and knows that you can be better than that, you should take it with a grain of salt. she wants you to be a mature grown man who can be a potential father to kids and loving family, and so far you are not being responsible as you should be. its no different then a close bud or a bro telling you to get yourself together, or even your mom, all whom love you very much and want to see you prosper.
sometimes we get yelled at by someone we like and it hurts but trust me, its to make us wake up and become a better person. I learned this recently myself actually, I kinda messed up at maturity at work and my boss yelled at me and it was painful and I just felt like sh*t, but she did it to make me be a better worker and I really did learn my lesson because I could have avoided drama and just been wiser about how I handled things. I couldve prevented it all just by letting it all go. we all get knocked to the ground by different people its part of life, but there's always a learning lesson behind it. don't take it personally just learn from it. I actually think the more a person yells at you in anger, the more its an indication of how much they love you (or like- such as at work/job boss employee relationship) and care about you. in life your mom will yell at you, your teachers will yell at you, your boss will yell at you, your lover/spouse will yell at you, someday even your kids will yell at you (ive had to yell at my dad to knock some sense into him), but its all because we care about you and we want you to be the best.0