It all depends.
I come from a descent background and I can recall my parents telling me about their first date. It was always a Piano Lounge or an upscale restaurant. Now, that was their thing. They both made a good amount of money and it was something they were both accustomed to.
Me however, I am not in the same situation. I do dine at the fancy venues with the white table cloths and the whole 9 yards (with parent of course) but when I am taking someone out I take them to a place that is my norm. That way we can talk and at the same time they can get small hints on the type of things that I like. In my current relationship our first date was at a Sports Bar. I made it known that I enjoy sports, wings, and beer lol. Granted my partner makes way more than I do financially but if you are with someone for the right reason it shouldn't matter. Neither one of us like the high end dining establishments so it works out well for us.
P. S. I spent $57 total on out first date. We did go out for our 1 year to an expensive steakhouse but since we've been together that has been the only time except for when we go out with my parents.
honestly, a first date is about getting to know the person. it's as much about you deciding whether you like them as it is about wanting to impress. but if the quality of the impression that you make on a girl is dependent on spending $100-200 then that girl is clearly not worth it. she'd only do you harm and you would be placing unrealistic expectations on future encounters. even if all you wanted was sex, why not spending 100-200 on a hooker and it would be guaranteed? a place where you can talk and enjoy each others company costs very little.
Hmm... There's really no "set" amount for a first date. As long as the experience is memorable and you are charming, she will have a great time. Spend what you are comfortable with and not what you assume is necessary. No woman of worth will judge you by how much you spend- but by your personality and attractiveness.
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Different girls will obviously have very different viewpoints on the subject matter, but I personally would never consider dating a guy who makes me "go dutch". Never. If a guy expects me to do that on a DATE I'll move him immediately to the friend zone. Contradictory? Nope. I go dutch with my FRIENDS. I'd rather he buy me a coffee and cookie at McD's than go dutch. if he pays for me it means he's pursuing me and was raised to consider people before money and is making an investment (even a small one) in our possible relationship. I would pay for him if I was pursuing him first-doesn't matter how well I know him.
I'm glad you are thoughtful enough to ask at all! Good job. :)
Personally, I'd feel a little uncomfortable if a guy took me out on some expensive outing for our first date, lol. The objective is to have fun and get to know each other, not throw money around and try to impress by spending. I think dinner or lunch [with or without drinks] and some cool random drive sounds great. I'd probably want to contribute in some way, whether it be paying for gas or drinks and the tip, especially if the meal was kind of expensive and he insisted on paying for that.
If I were the one planning and initiating that date, I'd budget like $20-30 for the meal and tip, because most restaurants I like and would choose to go to [for a date or otherwise] are fairly affordable, with excellent food, and I like to tip well. In MY car [because I get good gas milage], I'd budget like $10 for gas, because I know a lot of really cool country back roads that are great for just cruising and talking, with lots of spots to park and look at the stars or other scenery.
I think it depends on the person and where they are in life. Only spend what you are comfortable with, spending too much will only hurt you in the end.
For instance, someone who works part-time and goes to school might not be comfortable spending a lot. Whereas someone who works full-time and makes a decent amount of money might be more comfortable spending more.
I think as long as both people have fun and enjoy the date, that is what matters most.
Throwing a lot of money out on a date may not be a good idea if it's only to impress the girl. I think for most people, anyone spending a ridiculous amount of money just makes them uncomfortable.
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Personally I put way more feelings into how the date itself went, not how much money was spent. (I'm kind of uncomfortable if I know a guy just dropped a lot of cash on me.) But I'm also an easy date, I'm totally cool with unusual/easy dates. Grabbing a pair of chairs and a couple of beers and hanging out during a storm on a porch chatting. Going fishing. 4-wheeling. Getting lost on back-country roads. Renting a ridiculously cheesy movie and making fun of it the whole time. Grabbing ice cream and going to the park. That kinda thing.
if you already know the girl, and are really interested in her, you could spend 60. that's like 25 bucks for a meal plus a tip. most restaurant meals cost me at least 20, and that's for the normal, nothing fancy places to eat.
i think it depends really, on how much you like her.
If you're thinking about the money cost then why bother going? No I do not come from a wealthy background, I don't have a lot of money to spare myself either, but these types of questions aren't needed. You should be thinking, where should I take her to impress her, or what to wear. blah blah
I'd say between $20-40 is reasonable if you plan on going to a sit down restaurant, have a drink or two and leave a tip. A lot of it depends on where you live though for what prices would be, however this is the range that I have spent in the past.
Personally, I would never spend that much on the first date, even if I knew them well.
I like to think of first dates as something casual, where we can just talk.
None at all, unless you want to count the cost of petrol you used to get there. Other than that - zilcho!
a billion dollars...
I would say 20 - 30?
Depends where you go.
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