How much money should be spent on a first date?

Well, I'm just curious to how much a guy should spend on the first date. I'm talking about total cost for both persons. I'm thinking max $60 if I know the person pretty well and go dutch on a random girl that I don't know too well?

Let's hear some of yeah thoughts on this one ^_^


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Most Helpful Girl

  • Personally, I'd feel a little uncomfortable if a guy took me out on some expensive outing for our first date, lol. The objective is to have fun and get to know each other, not throw money around and try to impress by spending. I think dinner or lunch [with or without drinks] and some cool random drive sounds great. I'd probably want to contribute in some way, whether it be paying for gas or drinks and the tip, especially if the meal was kind of expensive and he insisted on paying for that.

    If I were the one planning and initiating that date, I'd budget like $20-30 for the meal and tip, because most restaurants I like and would choose to go to [for a date or otherwise] are fairly affordable, with excellent food, and I like to tip well. In MY car [because I get good gas milage], I'd budget like $10 for gas, because I know a lot of really cool country back roads that are great for just cruising and talking, with lots of spots to park and look at the stars or other scenery.

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    • Lol. You sound like my kind of girl. An independent woman ftw.

    • Haha thanks! =] I'm pretty low maintenance and open to a lot of random things, most of which don't have to cost a buttload of money.

What Girls Said 6

  • Hmm... There's really no "set" amount for a first date. As long as the experience is memorable and you are charming, she will have a great time. Spend what you are comfortable with and not what you assume is necessary. No woman of worth will judge you by how much you spend- but by your personality and attractiveness.

    Sorry for writing a lot.

    Different girls will obviously have very different viewpoints on the subject matter, but I personally would never consider dating a guy who makes me "go dutch". Never. If a guy expects me to do that on a DATE I'll move him immediately to the friend zone. Contradictory? Nope. I go dutch with my FRIENDS. I'd rather he buy me a coffee and cookie at McD's than go dutch. if he pays for me it means he's pursuing me and was raised to consider people before money and is making an investment (even a small one) in our possible relationship. I would pay for him if I was pursuing him first-doesn't matter how well I know him.

    I'm glad you are thoughtful enough to ask at all! Good job. :)

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    • So if a girl I take out wants to go dutch does that mean they are putting me in the friend zone?

    • If she offers she is being polite. But if she suggests going dutch and really insists, she is doing one of two things: she is telling you she sees you as a friend, or she honestly is the "I pay for myself" modern woman.

      Personally, if I don't like how a date is going I'll insist on going dutch. Lol. Don't want the guy to waste money on a lost cause. @_@ Letting a guy pay means you both see this as a date. But girls are different so just ask her!

    • I guess I should pray that none of my dates ever end up being dutch o_o

  • I think it depends on the person and where they are in life. Only spend what you are comfortable with, spending too much will only hurt you in the end.

    For instance, someone who works part-time and goes to school might not be comfortable spending a lot. Whereas someone who works full-time and makes a decent amount of money might be more comfortable spending more.

    I think as long as both people have fun and enjoy the date, that is what matters most.

    Throwing a lot of money out on a date may not be a good idea if it's only to impress the girl. I think for most people, anyone spending a ridiculous amount of money just makes them uncomfortable.

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  • Personally I put way more feelings into how the date itself went, not how much money was spent. (I'm kind of uncomfortable if I know a guy just dropped a lot of cash on me.) But I'm also an easy date, I'm totally cool with unusual/easy dates. Grabbing a pair of chairs and a couple of beers and hanging out during a storm on a porch chatting. Going fishing. 4-wheeling. Getting lost on back-country roads. Renting a ridiculously cheesy movie and making fun of it the whole time. Grabbing ice cream and going to the park. That kinda thing.

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  • I'd say between $20-40 is reasonable if you plan on going to a sit down restaurant, have a drink or two and leave a tip. A lot of it depends on where you live though for what prices would be, however this is the range that I have spent in the past.

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  • if you already know the girl, and are really interested in her, you could spend 60. that's like 25 bucks for a meal plus a tip. most restaurant meals cost me at least 20, and that's for the normal, nothing fancy places to eat.

    i think it depends really, on how much you like her.

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    • So if I really wanted to impress her I should leave a pretty big tip?

    • Most of the time we don't see how much of a tip you left. And the only impact it will have is negative if you're really stingy with a good waiter.

    • 25 for each meal, so 50 in total, plus like a ten doller ish tip. you could leave less if you wanted

  • a billion dollars...

    I would say 20 - 30?

    Depends where you go.

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What Guys Said 5

  • Personally, I would never spend that much on the first date, even if I knew them well.

    I like to think of first dates as something casual, where we can just talk.

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    • I was listening on the radio the other day and some of the female callers were throwing in numbers from $100 to $200 for a first date. Pretty crazy.

  • honestly, a first date is about getting to know the person. it's as much about you deciding whether you like them as it is about wanting to impress. but if the quality of the impression that you make on a girl is dependent on spending $100-200 then that girl is clearly not worth it. she'd only do you harm and you would be placing unrealistic expectations on future encounters. even if all you wanted was sex, why not spending 100-200 on a hooker and it would be guaranteed? a place where you can talk and enjoy each others company costs very little.

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  • It all depends.

    I come from a descent background and I can recall my parents telling me about their first date. It was always a Piano Lounge or an upscale restaurant. Now, that was their thing. They both made a good amount of money and it was something they were both accustomed to.

    Me however, I am not in the same situation. I do dine at the fancy venues with the white table cloths and the whole 9 yards (with parent of course) but when I am taking someone out I take them to a place that is my norm. That way we can talk and at the same time they can get small hints on the type of things that I like. In my current relationship our first date was at a Sports Bar. I made it known that I enjoy sports, wings, and beer lol. Granted my partner makes way more than I do financially but if you are with someone for the right reason it shouldn't matter. Neither one of us like the high end dining establishments so it works out well for us.

    P. S. I spent $57 total on out first date. We did go out for our 1 year to an expensive steakhouse but since we've been together that has been the only time except for when we go out with my parents.

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  • If you're thinking about the money cost then why bother going? No I do not come from a wealthy background, I don't have a lot of money to spare myself either, but these types of questions aren't needed. You should be thinking, where should I take her to impress her, or what to wear. blah blah

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  • None at all, unless you want to count the cost of petrol you used to get there. Other than that - zilcho!

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