I've always been an affectionate person. And in the beginning my boyfriend, Reese, was as well. After we had been dating for 2 months, he became more distant towards me. I honestly can not remember the last time he held my hand, cuddled with me, or even gave me a kiss. We've been dating for 6 months now and we moved things kind of fast because I now live with him. We both have been married and divorced, and both each have 2 kids. So our life is very busy, but on the days we do not have kids it's the same things. No affection. I am not sure if I can handle being in a non-affectionate relationship. We have fought about this & talked about it for the past 4 months. So for the past month I layed off completely, thinking that maybe if I lay off of him and don't push him that he will want to be close to me. This isn't the case. I will even ask him if I can sit by him on the couch, or if I can lay next to him in bed. He always has an excuse such as "I'm too hot" or "I just got comfortable". It really bothers me that he doesn't kiss me EVER. We have a good sex life, usually having sex at LEAST once a day and always initiated by me. Sometimes he rejects me though. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong, as I take care of all four kids on my own when we have all of them, and I keep the house clean by myself and never ask him to do a thing. I'm not really sure what to do. He says he loves me, but I really don't know anymore. I feel more like his friend than his girlfriend. It's starting to really get me down, and he knows this but still refuses to be affectionate. What is going on with him? I know he isn't stressed...he has a great job and makes a lot of money, so that's not an issue.
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This guy has it so good that he has become complacent. Stop giving him everything he wants when you aren't getting what you need out of the relationship. He needs to be aware of how his selfishness is effecting you and if he doesn't change you need to change your behavior towards him.2
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