Ok, this guy who likes me is buddies with my Dad. The guy and me went on a date a few months ago on his b-day, even though I had never talked to him on the phone before. He is a friend of a mutual friend of mine. Anyway, so he texts me about every 3 weeks and all. I talk to his best friend who said he is "totally interested" in me but he just got out of a stupid relationship. His best friend also said that my guy said that he wasn't interested in dating anyone right now, back in February 8 he said this, when my guy told him he was thinking about asking me out that weekend when he was in town.
On February 5, the guy wrote on my wall, "I think we are in need of another fishing trip." This was our first date. I replied 'I agree, let me know when!" He hasn't asked yet. Also, when he texted me he would say, "Next time I come we should go out for sure." Hasn't done it yet, even though he came a few weeks ago to my town (doesn't live too far away). Could it be because he doesn't want to date yet again since he is still getting over the other girl?
So I haven't got a text since February 16, but the guy called my Dad today and left him a voice mail saying "I haven't heard from ya'll in a while and just wanted to see how ya'll were doing." I kind of got upset, because I haven't heard from him in a few weeks and I want him to call me/or text me. Is this bad that he called my Dad (whom he likes and is buddies with) and not me? I'm waiting for him to ask me on another date since he wrote that on my wall, but I don't know what to say or do.
Why hasn't he texted me since February 17? Is it because he is shy/nervous around girls he likes? Waiting on me to text him for once?!?! Is this normal?! Should I text him? Someone please help! Just write what you think!
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some guys lack confidence with women, others are inexperienced and don't know how to take the reigns, others still are more submissive and want you to drive. which one of those describes your guy, I don't know. If you can figure that out though, it will make it a lot easier for you.
If he lacks confidence with you, be more forward. show him that there's nothing to be afraid of. build up his confidence and then slide in little hints that you want him to lead. tell him that you like it when he makes the decisions and what not.
If he's inexperienced with relationships, talk to him about it. don't pretend to be an expert, instead just tell him what you want.
If he's just submissive by nature then it isn't something you will likely be able to change. Either accept it that he wants you in control of things or find someone else. He may change over time, but he may not. Either way it's unfair to go into it assuming he will.0