My good guy friend and I text a lot. Last night just out of the blue he texted "______(my name).. do you like me? It caught me completely off guard...And I don't know what to do. What do you all think? I have mixed feeling about it all. I like him, but I don't know how I would feel about a relationship right now. And I'm worried it will ruin our close friendship. And of course I think he likes me, (he at least did back in January, but since then I think he gave up on me because he became convinced I like someone else-you can read the story here if you want link ) but I have no clue for sure.
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Ok whatever you do, don't give him a mixed answer. You need to be sure in what you are saying as he has put you in an awkward situation but at the same time you don't wanna mess with his feelings. If he asks you do you like him and you are not sure, simply answer "hey I really like you as a FRIEND". And leave it at that. If you decide you want to take it further, only then you don't mention the friend bit and say "yeah I do like you" and make it obvious you want more than friendship. See the problem you risk by saying "I do like you, but I'm not sure about taking it further" is that he will see hope in this and say for instance you decide that you do not wanna date him then he will be upset.
Take time out and think what you want. I would say if you do feel attracted to him and he feels, why not take that chance? I mean you know him well, you like the look of him, that is great! Besides, if you both start dating other people you will only start to feel jealous. Anyway think about what you want.0