In Feb 2011, I started dating a girl that I had been in love
with ever since I got to know her in the summer of 2010. She was my best friend, we did almost everything together. She was my dream girl. She started dating me in February, but it lasted like 2 days because I had done something really stupid and impulsive; she was at my house, and for no reason at all, I kind of pinned her down to the bed and wouldn't let go. It was a dumb ass thing to do. She demanded that I give her a ride home, and I really didn't want to give her a ride. I left her out in front of my apartment while I went to go buy a beer. When I got back, she finally almost called the cops and I gave her a ride home. On my way home, I kind of yelled at her and said some really stupid ass things to her. Well, as soon as I dropped her off, I called her and she immediately broke up with me and verbally owned me; I deserved it, though at the time I was really pissed off at what she said to me.
At the time, I owed her some money because she loaned me some gas money to get to work. I forgot how much, but I knew it was like 40 or 50 dollars; the night she broke up with me, she said I didn't have to pay her back. A few days before we got together, we ordered presents for each other for valentines day. She had my present directly mailed to my house. And I had her present mailed to my house; so I was in possession of both the presents. We were expecting them the following week. Well, I waited a few days, and was still pretty pissed off at her (I had no right to be mad at anybody but myself). I decided to give her present to another lady friend, and when I told her about it, she wanted my present back and was going to return it for a refund. Instead of giving it back to her, I told her to go to hell.
After that, she cut all ties with me and hasn't ever responded to any of my attempts to make amends with her. 1.5 years later, I still miss her. I don't want to be in a relationship with her, but I'd still love to be friends with her.
I'm thinking about sending her a card in the mail with the money that I owed her and more. I have no idea if she's going to respond or not. At least if I give her the money back, I'll have done the right thing. Even if she doesn't try to contact me.
Ladies, what would you do if a guy friend screwed you over 100 dollars, then 2 years later sent you a letter in the mail with the money that he owed you and an apology note attached to it?
I know it's the right thing to do. But I'm looking for a female perspective.
Most Helpful Guy
Send the money. Say your sorry. Don't expect to ever hear from her again.
The ladies have it right. Saying you were impulsive and immature is letting you off to easy. I know that is harsh, but you were rude, disrespectful, mean and thoughtless. You are damn lucky she didn't call the cops.
The least you can do is pay her back, and treat all women with respect. No matter how you feel towards them.
I hope you have learned from this...1
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