What should I do here?
I was seeing this guy for about a month. It kind of got mucked up because of me. This resulted in him ending it as I scared him off a bit by coming on too strong. I apologized for everything I could and left him be for a week. We ran into each other on a night out drunk and had yet another tussle. I went another week not speaking with him and him not speaking to me. Anyway last Friday he texted me drunk wondering how I was and if I hated him. I told him no. I told him I was merely embarrassed about what had happened. He stopped texting then started drunk texting again on the Saturday night just saying he was glad I was OK and didn’t want me to get hurt or anything. He asked if he’s offended me when we’d ran into each other that night and I told him he had kind of. After that the texting stopped again. On Monday he sober texted me relatively early and we had a decent conversation. He was being sensitive and complimentary. He asked what I was going to be doing that night and I almost felt he was gonna ask me to do something with him. I told him I was busy though. He asked what I’d been up to and I said I’d been at the gym mostly, he then said “why? I’ve told you 8 million times you have an amazing body and don’t need to get anymore fit”. I then went to my friends to watch a movie and he left me to it.
Last night I thought I’d send him a text and again we chatted away again. He still kinda used a few pet names when talking to me and was teasing me a little and making me laugh. He then went to bed early for work. However what I am really concerned about is his ex. I know this is bizarre as we aren’t even together but that’s what I wanna work up to in the end! Anyway a mutual friend told me he’s meeting his ex this Saturday for lunch with one of her close guy friends/relative (guy friend may not be able to make it though). I’m finding this all very confusing as he broke up with her at the end of March on his own terms and he said he had no intentions of ever getting back with her again. I was actually supposed to be getting introduced to her at one point! This just makes me feel so uncomfortable because I know he loved her and was with her for a year and a half. But I have a feeling he still harbours a few light feelings for me. I just feel as if I don’t stand a chance against this girl. He’s still friends with like half of her family on Facebook as well.
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if you wanna be with this guy you first need to trust him. If you can't trust him to hang out with an ex, somethings wrong. I understand the whole thing about ex's being at one point the center of their life, but some people are actually able to stay friends with their ex's. if you trust him you have nothing to worry about. and if he does something to his ex, don't you feel like maybe his not the one? I think maybe you should meet up with him and just ask him. thing is, they might have had a very serious relationship, so his friends with all her family. where as you guys werent really ever serious. you kinda scared him off cause his not ready for a relationship, so he might be flirting with you, but flirting with someone doesn't always indicate that they want a relationship. he might still love his ex. you won't know unless you ask. its an awkward question but you want an answer.0
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