I recently told the girl of my dreams how I felt about her. I've bottled up those feels for about a year now, and I couldn't hold them in any longer.
After I told her how I felt, she said "awww that's so sweet of you! No guy has ever told me such a thing!" I cried a little while telling her, not a full blown cry, but a few tears rolled down from my eyes. Once I finished, and aside from the "aww" thing, she was speechless. She looked at me really intently and finally told me that she liked another guy, and they've been talking for months.
Now her and the other guy are still pretty far from going into a relationship, but she said she likes him. And that made my heart drop. She added that we could still be friends and hang out, basically putting me in the friend zone. I had to drop her back at her house shortly after this, so there wasn't too much time for us to evaluate this. I told her to think about what I said, and her response was "but I like that other guy".
This whole move required big courage from my part, because I'm worried to lose her. For the time being, I'm in the friend zone, which isn't good either, but I didn't lose her like I thought. So my plan now is to let her think about it a little for a few days, and then I'll try to meet up with her again and discuss what I said to her.
With all that aside, here's the main points:
- She was very happy that I told her how I felt, as no guy had ever told her something like that before. (Good)
- She said we could still hang out and be friends, like in the past. (Neutral, I didn't lose her, but I don't want to be friend zoned)
- She said she likes another guy, and they've been talking for months. It's mainly her who likes the guy, while it seems like the guy is kinda nonchalant about it. They aren't too deep either, so she can still pull away and be interested in me. (Bad, this basically prevents me from being closer to her, as in the relationship path(
With that summed up, my question is, what do I do now? I am in love with this girl, she's perfect in every way. I'd be the happiest man alive if she was in my arms! She means everything to me, and I've made many sacrifices in my life to just be with her!
So, what do I do now? I've been praying to God for help so far, and I'm thinking that's all I can do for the time being!
Advice is highly appreciated and thank you for spending your time to help me, it means a lot! God bless you and thank you!
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hmmm this isn't going to be easy for you at this point but my advice would be that you should tell her you can't just be close friends with her, yeah friendly but not spending a lot of time with her kinda friends and try dating other girls. She's dating other guys but also wants to be able to keep you around. You need to show her you are wanted by other women. You don't want to appear desperate for her and like you're hanging around she'll see you as pathetic and that'd be bad especially since she doesn't seem to see you as a rival for her already.
You have to make her take notice that you're a man who's in demand with other women and other women want/find you attractive and don't be so available to her..pull back.
I've seen this in action myself with my daughters and I've seen this get their attention...no idea if it will work for you or not but it just depends on if she finds you at all attractive or if you stay on her mind past "aww wasn't that sweet" Don't JUST be sweet>> be sweet and sexy and mysterious lol2