Today my boyfriend and I have been dating since four months.
I drew him a picture of us and posted it on his Facebook wall exactly at midnight but all he did was telling me via text that aww babe that means a lot to me. He didn't do anything like that for me - he just wished me happy 4 months this morning via text and that kinda was it. I just thought maybe he would do something nice like that too; surprise me. But he didn't. I always am the one who is doing thoughtful things in our relationship: caring for him and staying up the whole night when he is sick; buying him random things of which I know he likes them; treating him to dinner .. he does say he loves me and doesn't quite know how to show me because he's not good with emotions but I really feel sad a lot of times because I do random things to surprise him - post stuff on his Facebook or get up super early for him to text him good morning .. he never does things like that. Sometimes he doesn't text me fir over 12 hours or a whole day and then I worry but he always tells me that he just forgot to text me back because he was doing something else. I get that! but 12 hours? :( I recently spent $500 on him .. while I was his guest at his house in his hometown. I always treated him to lunch or dinner or bought him allergy meds .. I didn't realize I spent that much. When I told him he didn't seem to care at all and I just wonder what I am in for. I told him about all this; I let him know that I feel like I am always the one who is chasing after him and that it makes me feel hurt and stupid. I really love him. He sent me a super long apology and we talked things through but he doesn't seem to know what he is doing wrong. Maybe that's just who he is. I don't know what to do .. He cried and told me he's sorry but then he never does anything special .. I guess he really doesn't know how to show me? I just always have to tell him everything and feel super clingy and stupid when I do. But I do love him. He says he loves me too and wants us to work things out but he never really understands what he does wrong. When I am with him we do stuff together and everything but then he always
wants to play video games and I just sit next to him and study .. I don't know what to do. I really feel like I care more but he doesn't understand why I'm feeling hurt .. and I just always feel stupid then. Any advice?
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Stop doing things for him, pay less attention. But first you've got to at least try and communicate your feelings and talk about what his deal is...0