To those who have used online dating sites, what do you look for when looking at someone's profile? What are the things that make you want to message a person the most? Are you a casual browser? Are you more picky than you might be in person? How do you view online dating?
I am just looking for some insight. Thanks!
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First off I want to say that I found my current Girlfriend and the love of my life on Match so I believe I have some good advice to share. I was on Match for about 4 months and I only talked with three women the entire time I was on. This was not because of me being to picky, it was because of how unrealistic woman are on what they are looking for. You have to remember that you want a real person, not some fake perfect person who doesn't exist. There are plenty of pretty people on those websites but you have to learn to read between the lines and look beyond profile pictures. Look for things you really have in common that are truly important to you. The next thing you need to do is chat with people you find interesting, give them a chance to impress you with real conversation, if you like what they have to say take it to the next level and exchange phone numbers. Look, I am a white guy with what most people consider good looks. However I am only 5ft 8in and I am bald. Just based off those two qualities I was already filtered out from 90 percent of women's profiles. My Girlfriend who is amazingly beautiful gave me a chance because she liked how I put my "true thoughts" out there for all to see. When we started talking it was like we had know each other our whole lives. When we met in person it was magical, she was caught off guard how good I actually looked in person. It is very hard to understand what a person really looks like by profile pictures, sometimes you can be pleasantly surprised how people look different in person. Also don't limit yourself to a certain type, I know all women dream on Mr. Tall, dark and handsome but there are many really good men who are way better for you out there that don't fit into the dream man category. The most important thing is how compatible you are on a mental and emotional level. Attraction is important but it can come in many different forms. In some men's eyes my Girlfriend is not attractive but in my eyes she is the most beautiful person in the world. Good luck and I hope this helps.0