Sometimes I read articles, comments, opinions, etc, about what people want in a person that they're interested in. It gets me excited! It let's me know that there's just about anybody for anyone.
But while reading up on this, I've come across some confusing things as well, things that aren't seeming to add up, to me. Maybe I need someone to explain to me.
Many times people know what they want, but they won't go get it.
Or they'll say something that seems to contradict what they themselves like.
Examples being: "I want a sensitive guy" then that same person may say something like "when a guy cries it makes him look weak."
Or something like ...
"I like independent women." and then they'll probably say "Where do I stand in this relationship, she doesn't need me."
"I want an assertive person" but when someone approaches them, they shut down.
"I want this in a ..." But "they can't do that.."
"I don't want to settle ..." but " this time I'll"
Examples like this and others (too many to list here)have lead me to questions like this ... do people really know who or what they want in a significant other?
Is it something that always changes?
Does it generally stay the same?
I have to ask myself this question time, and time again.
What about you?
If I missed an option, let me know. Thank you!
- I do know what I want. (state it)45% (46)47% (20)46% (66)Vote
- I'm still figuring it out. (state what's to figure out [if possible])29% (30)16% (7)26% (37)Vote
- I'm not looking. (state why not)9% (9)16% (7)11% (16)Vote
- I've been unsuccessful dating. (tell me what's on your heart)6% (6)14% (6)8% (12)Vote
- I don't know what I want. (state why not)11% (11)7% (3)9% (14)Vote
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I'm not currently looking, I have friends, I have fun, too busy with work to take the time to look for a relationship. The right one, I will make time for, but right now, I'm fine without a relationship. Been burned way too much in the recent months.
That being said, I do know what I want and I like. I need someone who understands agriculture and loves it as much as I do. I tried dating city boys, didn't work, they don't know what hard work is. Someone who tolerates the fact that I love horses and they are a major part of my life. I do know I need someone taller than me, I tried dating shorter men but it never worked out, complete turn off and that's not fair to him. I want someone I find attractive, makes me feel attractive and who I can trust and by myself around. As long as he's in shape, healthy and a non-smoker, it comes down to the individual.
Dating various guys does solidify your opinion. I tried city boys, hated it, was unhappy. Gave a shorter guy a chance, felt totally awkward and turned off. Had a serious relationship with a guy that loved horses... realized that wasn't so important to me.0
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