When your scared to tell someone the truth in case you hurt them...
Then your scared you'll regret making the wrong decision in the first place...
We mutually broke up a month ago after a 4 year relationship and to tell you the truth, because of the lack of contact, I've been getting used to things the way they are now. There's no one else involved.
Thing is, when we got engaged we went to a wedding fair early this year and won dinner and champayne for 2 in a prize draw and expires next month so we agreed to use it for tomorrow and I know he's expecting a romantic reunion when we agreed this dinner is for closure. I've realized that I don't want to try again yet I still love him and feel sad about everything. I'm scared I'll upset him. Don't know how to behave tomorrow.
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Honestly, this is one freebie I would skip. I think it is great that you are at peace with the decision and really feel good about your life as it stands, without him. You already recognize that he may not be in that same place. You are probably right. Seems the odds of both people being happy about a break-up run long. Usually one is not happy.
Well, unfortunately eating dinner and drinking champagne together will be an awkward experience that will definitely make anyone who still has feelings lose it when they find out the other person has moved on. I don't think there is any great way to act other than be honest with him and don't try to soft sell it or overtalk it. Don't explain yourself. Just say that you are at peace with the break-up and leave it at that. The more you try to explain, the more the other person will probably try to talk you out of it.0