How do I ask him to stop talking to me without sounding like a child?

I like a guy at work and he has really led me on, for reasons beyond my understanding. We are both 30 and have a pretty serious job (in a law firm).... Show More

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Thank you so much. You are right on. Good insight! The girl in me still looks at her and thinks "You phony!". She was not oblivious to the fact we had something going on. She always knew but she never acknowledged it. By playing naive she allowed herself a chance. That is a fine strategy (not one that will win you many friends though!). Now I have to tolerate her condescending tone and gestures towards me "Hey! -insert hug- Are you ok?" It's very hurtful.

Most Helpful Opinion

  • no. this doesn't warrant a sexual harassment charge, as some have suggested, because initially you were fully on board. And there is no way you can maturely tell someone in a professional setting, "Please don't talk to me, I really liked you, but you hurt my feelings by asking me and my intern out." He may even start spreading rumors that you're the whiny gal that liked him so much you had have a dramatic one on one relationship talk. No, don't sabotage your career.

    No, this is a time for you to put on the real professional wax. Answer him curtly, short answers, yes/no and I don't know answers. Be professional, don't get vindictive with him or jealous and petty with your intern. Its time to be a professional. Put your feelings aside and do your job. Get your anger and hurt out on your own time. Take a kickboxing or boxing class, yoga, cry a little, call a few names. But at work, button it up.

    These things happened. So he was a deutsche. At least you know now before 3 mos into a relationship and he's also sleeping with your intern and the receptionist. he will eventually get that you don't want a conversation when you don't make any with him and provide him short yes no answers.

    good luck!

    • (-read my update first, was meant for you-) I personally can not stand seeing another human beeing been humilliated, even if they are my enemy! I was nothing but good to this girl and she rubs this in my face. Very, very hurtful. And him? Actually liking her? What a disappointment. He sees this happening and because I keep my distance he thinks she is good and I'm bitter. No matter what facade I wear she always wins. I feel I'm beating on a dead horse. But hey... awesome answer.

    • if she asks in a condescending tone, how are you, just use the same tone with her, "and how are you?" Then laugh and ask crisp and professionally, seriously XX are you okay? You sound funny. Then move on to other things. She and He will eventually get that you have moved on. By the way, I fail to see how she wins when she got the guy trying to screw around w/two women at the same time. I will bet, $ to donuts he's sleeping with more than just the intern.