My boyfriend recently mentioned he wished things were similar to the time we first started going out. The part where we are head over heels for each other and do things to make them happy. Lately he thinks we have become comfortable and don't do the same things we used to do. I'm by sure how I can make myself go back to the way we were when we first started out. So much has happened for us to get where we know everything. I just want to make him happy. What can I do to bring back that first time feeling for both of us?
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The first thing you need to understand is that it works both ways. You're not the only one who has to work to make things better...he has to work at it too.
What you're going through is normal. Of course in the beginning of relationships everything is completely exciting because you don't know what to expect and everything is new. Now that youve been together for a while, it turns into routine and boring.
The key is to keep things "new." Surprise him with romantic gestures. Do something out of the ordinary that will completely throw him off his guard. Do something with him that he enjoys that he thinks you never would do with him. You know him best...you can come up with something.
Like I said, he has to do the same...if you find yourself making all the effort to make things better and he's doing nothing to improve things, such as doing romantic things for you, etc, he might be completely happy going through the motions so to speak.
Hope this helps. Good luck.0