After a first date, how long should you wait before calling/texting ?

Well OK so I went out with this girl on Saturday night for coffee . The date was good ,but I'm not sure if she felt the same way . What's the ideal amount of time I should wait before texting her ?

Also what should I say when I text her ?


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  • After a first date , how long should you wait before calling/texting ?

    In my opinion as long as you want.

    at's the ideal amount of time I should wait before texting her ?

    Depends on the gal. Some like to be called immediately the same or next day otherwise they think he's not that interested or they lose interest. Some like to be called a few days after otherwise they think he's desperate or a future stalker.

    Also what should I say when I text her ?

    Probably best suited to tell her that you enjoyed the date then ask her out on another one.

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    • How about I say this - " Hey , it was nice talking to you the other day , let's catch up at [ another place] soon" . During our convo we discussed that we should try out another coffee place next time , so I figured I could specify that place in the message .Also , she mentioned that she would love to join the Salsa dance classes that I go too .

      Do you think this is fine - "Hey , it was nice talking to you the other day , let's catch up at [ another place] soon"

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    • I texted this "Hey, had a great time last Saturday! What about we check out (specific new place) this weekend?"

      Her reply - "Hey sorry I'm busy this weekend , some other time "

      Is this a nice way of saying she's not interested ?

    • Depends on the gal it's likely a brush off if she's the indirect type or the type who doesn't like confrontation.

      Otherwise ask her what time and if there's no reply or a response like 'I'll get back to you' or 'I'm pretty busy' she's probably brushing you off.

What Girls Said 4

  • There's no rule that you should wait a certain amount of time before texting/calling. If you wanna see her again, text her that you're in for a second date.

    You could text her today, asking her how she's been in the meantime and if she's up for a second date.

    Don't worry about the "rules", as long as you're not a stalker, I'd say go for it!

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    • How about I say this - " Hey , it was nice talking to you the other day , let's catch up at [ another place] soon" . During our convo we discussed that we should try out another coffee place next time , so I figured I could specify that place in the message .Also , she mentioned that she would love to join the Salsa dance classes that I go too .

      Do you think this is fine - "Hey , it was nice talking to you the other day , let's catch up at [ another place] soon"

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    • I texted what you told me to ; her reply "Hey sorry I'm busy this weekend , some other time " .

      Is that a nice way of saying she's not interested ?

    • If she doesn't mention a new date herself in the text or anytime soon, it is a nice way of letting you know there won't be a second date..

  • Honestly,

    when I say this I want all the guys to hear

    that

    THERE IS NO 3 DAY RULE TO CALL/TEXT BACK!

    I'd say the least would be a few hours after your date

    you can comment on how the day went

    whatever you guys talked on the date about you can restate in the text

    "if you hadn't told me today about ur. . . I wouldn't have known!" etc.

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  • no waiting, no games, just follow your d***, really. give her the choice as a woman to say yes or no.

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  • I don't think it really matters how soon you text her, but I wouldn't wait longer than a few days. Just say you had a nice time and would like to do it again sometime. See what she suggests.

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    • How about I say this - " Hey , it was nice talking to you the other day , let's catch up at [ another place] soon" . During our convo we discussed that we should try out another coffee place next time , so I figured I could specify that place in the message .Also , she mentioned that she would love to join the Salsa dance classes that I go too .

      Do you think this is fine - "Hey , it was nice talking to you the other day , let's catch up at [ another place] soon"

What Guys Said 3

  • You can do one of two things. Look at it as if she didn't ask you for a second date that it didn't go good. OR you can just be a man and stop playing games wondering about time and just call. A woman likes a guy who goes for what he wants and view it like this. She can see you not calling as playing games and perhaps think you aren't interested and move on.

    Now if you text & she says thanks for the date but I'd like to be friends than cool. As for what you should say try "Hi how are you?" you'll be amazed. Let things flow don't try and think things through. Maybe see if the convo builds up and if you want ask her once she replies.

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    • Oh and CALL HER! A text is so insincere trust me. They are more unlikely to reply to a text and more than likely to pick up if you call. You call you'll get your answer and a girl likes to hear a guys voice versus reading some txt.

  • 5 days minimum! No joke...not kidding! All the other guys text her...be different..and call her on the phone. Setup the next date. Waiting 5 days will clue you in to how much she likes you and if she has a good attitude. AKA...if she's worth your time. Good luck man.

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    • If a guy waited 5 days, I would loose interest. It would seem as if I was so un-important, that he forgot about me until he needed a "booty call" or something.

      Max 48 hours IMHO.

    • Guys who want a booty call don't wait 5 days anyway. They will call within 3 days. If you really liked the guy...you wouldn't like waiting 5 days...but you would likely forgive him. Remember...in this case we're talking about this guy who has went on one date. Waiting 5 days if he was exclusive with someone would be crazy.

  • The fact that you're concerned about what she'll think and to whether she'll validate you will be/already has been conveyed in your use of spoken/body language.

    Let go of the outcome.

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