How does it make you feel when you first meet a girl and it's totally obvious that she likes you? If I really, really, really like a guy...I'm a blushing, stuttering fool. Honestly, it's something I have no control over, though I've seriously tried to change. I can't help it when he talks to me or looks at me and I get so hot and red and my heart starts beating too fast. I don't know how to act. Sometimes I worry I'll say something stupid so when he asks me a question, my mind goes completely blank and I'll just mumble some reply. And when that happens, it's totally obvious that I like him and he looks at me with this, like...smile, but it's like a "Haha, that's so cute," smile, like he's laughing at me or something and I feel like I can never be taken seriously by guys that I truly admire.
Guys what do you honestly think about this sort of reaction? Is it really endearing or something? Or is it annoying? Would you ever take a girl seriously who couldn't look you in the eye without turning red?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, hopefully you don't judge men for the same reasons you feel nervous.
Let's get started, then:
If you're all blushy and bashful, it's really flattering. Honestly, I couldn't care less about how "suave" women are in that scenario. I understand it's totally human, and I find bashful and nervous to be far more authentic than "suave and smooth". And after all, I would much rather date a human with human fears and human quirks. A suave and smooth woman is probably more likely to be high-maintenance or even psychotic.
It also takes a huge load off for me. It's like, your shyness or nervousness validates it in myself. You're giving me permission to be myself and chill. There are a lot of women who see a man and stare down their noses until a man does something to prove he is worthy of her presence (Pictures a cat: "This amuses me. You have earned an audience with my highness."):
"I shouldn't have to bother myself to approach men" she would say. "They are the ones who should have to show their value, not me."
^Heard this from a woman I know. She no longer stands a chance with me for having an attitude like that.
In fact, I really wonder why so many women seem so hung up on a guy's OUTWARD confidence. If a guy is too outwardly confident, he probably isn't seeing you as a person.
I, on the other hand, understand that until mutual feelings are addressed, things are a little awkward, and there are a lot of butterflies. Only and idiot would think that's weak, pathetic, or less valuable.
So yeah, I would be totally flattered for a girl to be bashful and nervous around me. In fact, it would make her stand out more as a potential romantic partner, and I'd be willing to at least give it a shot, if I'm not already attracted in the first place. I've done it before.4