So I'm 18 and although I've had a few boyfriends when I was much younger, they were pseudo relationships where we didn't even talk, only texted. I've never kissed, hugged, cuddled, etc. with any guy. I'm what most people call a "straightedge kid" - I don't drink, smoke, take drugs or have sex.
I'm not butt ugly but not drop dead gorgeous either. I have plenty of friends (but I don't go out that much. I'm an introvert - albeit a very loud one when I'm with my friends) so it can't be cus I'm disgustingly hideous or that I have a crappy personality. I was best friends with the popular kids in high school but I wasn't popular myself (people knew me nevertheless, but not to the extent that my other friends had when it comes to popularity). I get fairly good grades so I'm not daft (although I'm not a mastermind either). I'm a thrill seeker/adrenaline junkie, I love travelling and reading and I'd rather stay at home than go out any day. I absolutely despise shopping but I do wear make-up, get my hair done, wear nice clothes, etc so I'm neither a tomboy nor a girlie girl. I'm not the world's biggest social butterfly, nor am I a wallflower but I don't attend parties all that much - if at all - unless they're my friends'.
I see all these female friends on Facebook who aren't necessarily amazingly physically attractive but they have such wonderful relationships with great guys (and they're extremely good-looking and nice and smart). Sadly all these guys went to a different school than I did. I know them through mutual friends (I used to go to the same school as some of their friends back in elementary school). The guys who went to my school were party animals and despite being hot, they just weren't what I look for in a guy. Plus they were THE biggest show-offs ever.
I'm drawn to smart (but not pedantic, pretentious, pseudo-intellectuals), kind, funny (but who are able to be serious when appropriate) guys who I personally find attractive (he doesn't have to be good-looking to anyone else but me) but also guys who aren't *that* sociable or always sleeping around with girls. Since I've never even kissed, it's such a turn-off when a guy has had sex with almost every other girl.
I don't get it - why am I not meeting the guys I'm looking for? I know my standards aren't too high generally but they are in relation to the men in this current day and age. Is there anything wrong with me? Guys have never come up to me to talk to me or anything, yet it happens to every other girl. I'm going to uni soon and I'm afraid I'll always be alone. I mean, I know I can get a really boring, smelly, lazy guy who doesn't care about anything and who I don't find physically attractive, but I don't want to compromise. Somehow I'm just SO unlucky in this department and I just want your opinions on why this is so. Maybe state some possibilities that you have observed or experienced with others who were/are in the same boat as I am? Many thanks in advance! :) x
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The most attractive men who are the best with women generally aren't in a hurry to be in a relationship because we can get more sex without relationships than your average, boring guy. You don't like average or boring. You want above average and also attractive. You're only average looking by your own admission. That's why you're only dating average, boring guys. When you shoot outside of your league, you lose the game, which is why you aren't having success. Your standards are too high compared to what you bring to the table.0
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