Dating a secretary - good or bad?

[Anonymous]

Is dating a secretary or one of those office women (like a human resource officer) a good or bad thing? I hear they usually cheat on their partners with their boss.

It's okay

Don't, they cheat!

[samhradh_leannan]

Secretaries do not "usually" cheat with their bosses. That's just a plot that turns up in p*rn and romance novels. It does happen in real life, sure, but that doesn't mean it's the most likely scenario. Just because a woman is a secretary, that doesn't mean she will cheat on you. And just because a woman is NOT a secretary doesn't mean she won't. It totally depends on the person, and if you find someone who you have a good relationship with and who you feel you can trust, don't let the fact that she's a secretary scare you away.

[aliciaxx]

No, that's a really negative stereotype. If you like a secretary and your not working in the same building, don't stop your advances because you're worried she might cheat. Get to know her before you judge.

[Asker]

But there's a big chance she falls for her boss...

[aliciaxx]

No, there's not. If she wants her boss she would have gone for him before you come along. If that's the case, then you can't date any girl with a job because 'she'll just fall for her boss'

[Asker]

No she might develop feelings for him later on, that's why...

[aliciaxx]

Looks like you can't date a woman with a boss then. You seem extremely insecure.

[aliciaxx]

And I really recommend you not dating a secretary just for the fact that you will never be secure in that relationship, and she will end up leaving you because of your insecurities, and it will have nothing to do with her boss. Unless of course you get over it and realize how stereotypical you're being.

[Asker]

Well I'd probs get over it...

[aliciaxx]

Well please for the sake of you and your potential date, don't ask her out until you are over it. You can't start a healthy relationship with an outlook like yours.

[Asker]

Okay, thanks for the advice!

[aliciaxx]

No problem!

[udolipixie]

Dating a secretary good or bad?

Depends on the gal as I highly doubt with the exception of escorts/prostitutes/strippers whether a gal cheats or not depends on her profession

[devilson]

What ? If you like her then you should date here and why not ? Because some one said ?

that stereotype is wrong and it all depends on the women or the men to cheat and not the work place

[Asker]

I should have taken the chance back then but got all paranoid! FFFFUUUUUUUUUUU

[Coolah]

Being one of those secretsres you should know in general we don't sleep with our bosses.

[Asker]

This eases my mind a bit...

[Coolah]

unless of course it's in the job desctiption... lol.

[Asker]

lawl

[vmw2008]

Same could be said of dating male CEO's, doctors, lawyers, hell any guy with a job that they leave for long periods of time. There are stereotypes for people who cheat all the time. It's not about the position, it's about the person.

[Asker]

That is true!

[ilovebender]

They are more likely to cheat than other people? That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Whoever told you that has been watching too much TV.

[Asker]

No, I've read this from real life experiences.

[ilovebender]

I have also heard the same thing about people who work in slaughter houses and grocery stores. Not kidding. It doesn't matter where people work, there will always be some people who cheat and then the person cheated on will always blame the work environment. The issue is with the cheaters themselves and nothing else. It has nothing to do with what anyone does for a living.

[Asker]

Interesting... you're reply really eased my mind lol

[ArmaniBeck]

I voted yours down on accident. I meant to hit the agree button because you're completely right!

[Asker]

lol

[cazza3]

That's ridiculous. Just because someone works in an office doesn't mean they'll cheat. Cheating is not dictated by place or job but by the person.

[Asker]

I've read so many personal stories in a forum where their office partner cheated on them with a coworker... :/

[aliciaxx]

What was the forum? Secretaries who date their bosses? It can happen in any job position, it depends on the person.

[Asker]

Relationship section of a Bodybuilding forum

[cazza3]

Maybe it was people spending too much time and attention focusing on their bodies and not enough on their partners. I've worked in an office environment for years and yes it does happen but no more so than any other job. I've never cheated and neither have 90% of the people I work with

[aliciaxx]

I've been on Bodybuilding forum, most of it is just a bunch of gym rats who are extremely shallow and closed minded. I would take anything you read on that site with a grain of salt.

[Asker]

Yeah I've noticed that too, but a lot of them only became that way after being heartbroken/cheated on

[cazza3]

That's bullsh*t. Its like saying oh I only cheat cause I was cheated on. People cheat because they're selfish, lack self control and have no respect for anyone. So are you saying every secretary or woman who works in an office environment all over the world is like that

[Asker]

No, but I assume a lot or are tempted to...

[cazza3]

So you do think they are like that

[YourBoss]

If everyone thought this way, people would never date secretaries.

Don't believe that stereotype.. Just go for it.

Good luck. :)

[KERMlT]

Date her and ask her if your dictate good. :D

[Anonymous]

I've always heard that they are big time whores.

[Asker]

Yeah, me too!

[Anonymous]

Bad

[Opinion Owner]

With your heavily biased poll. Get a life

[Asker]

Why bad?

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