This guy and I are both late 30s. We've been talking for hours every night on the phone and we finally got together, and wound up in bed. It was great...he was very complimentary and we were very comfortable and laid back. I talked to him the next day, and we kind of "chatted" about hanging out this weekend, but he was tentative...I KNEW he was really tired (didn't get much sleep) and kind of grumpy... he told me he was going to sleep early tonight. Well, I saw that he visited the dating website today we both met on...which he hasn't been on in this week...since we've been pretty intensely talking...I don't want to be possessive, but want to know if he is just trying out a lot of girls...he said he HATES that when girls have a "backup" if their Boyfriend isn't working out...he said he is more about being upfront and focused on one girl...so I was hoping he is following that himself. So how do I ask him if he's still into me after our night...or do I just await (impatiently) for him to call? I HATE THIS PART.
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I had the EXACT same thing happened to me!...I would not ask if he's still into you or not, don't even give him that satisfaction thinking you like him that much if he is going on to the site still. Mine had a little bit of a twist, he hadn't logged on while we were talking, we met up, he still didn't log on, and then by the 3rd time after we got intimate(it was really good), the next day he told he wasn't ready for a relationship and 20 MINUTES later was back on the dating site! Its been 5 MONTHS, and I actually looked him up the other day(I deleted my account af few months ago) and he is STILL on the site...the other guy that I met off the site, kept logging on from the day we started talking, it never went anywhere him either...i seriously have never felt more insecure about myself until I did online dating, the guys are assholes, and sleazy!...I guess you can wait for him to call, but seriously, don't take it that he is the serious type. Yeah you guys arn't in a relationship, but once your intimate with someone, you talk all the time and such, MOST girls would assume its going somewhere...and the fact he is still logging in shows its only one sided.
p.s. Never get intimiate with ANY of these guys from dating sites until your official, I played the fool twice, many of them only want a good time, and once you get intimate they all freak out and back off, I've heard this from multiple people that used a dating website!1
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